Will peruse the rest of your blog… but the analogue of this entry would be very interesting from any point of view…. How to make your woman hard!

Nice work… worked me up…

Asshole comments get asshole responses.

I would say that 90% of the sex drive of either males or females is bound up in ego and self-image.

I have met men who had a brilliant knack of making you feel like you are the ONLY woman they want. (I’m positive this isn’t the case - but boy does it work like a charm).

This is a skill that women need to hone. I think it’s a generational thing because, boy, can my mother ever do it! That trick of looking and addressing yourself in a way that makes a man think that he is the only male in the room that is worth your time. The ego boost is enormous and secure men are horny men.

Hugs,

rg

You make a lot of great points. Fortunately, I’d never just leave things up to the physical as far as the attraction goes. For me, seducing a guy always includes good conversation, great food, some laughs, and some naughtiness. It’s good to have a whole package, and I find the response is always worth my time.

You certainly make good reasons for other chicks to follow suit. Thanks for the awesome contribution.

I wonder if it’s the one-dimensional approach we chicks are getting used to making that are complicating our expectations of what a guy should be able to do for us. Hmm.

It’s my experience that men are more visually-oriented while women are tactile creatures. Now, for me, that means that women are actually easier to arouse. It takes a bit of time to learn each woman and what she wants, but once you get it down you’re pretty much set. Some women like a gradual buildup, some like to be surprised, some like both at different times. How you do it doesn’t matter so much so long as you’ve done the research beforehand. The main issue when dealing with a lady is trust. If she’s got the slightest doubts about you, you can do everything in the world right and all it will do is set off alarms in her head. She’ll pull away and you, thinking you’ve screwed up, are faced with the choice to either stop or press on and risk criminal charges.

Now, if I knew how to make people trust me, I’d be selling used cars, so I’m afraid I can’t help you much with that one.

Now men, men present the real challenge. Normally, most folk will stick with the “so horny they’ll be plugging a tree with a knothole of the appropriate height at the drop of a hat” stereotype. And normally, most folk will be right. But there’s a pretty big difference between the physical arousal and the mental arousal. Physical arousal is almost an unconscious response. Anything or nothing at all can set a man off. But the mistake is assuming that roll of quarters poking you in your hip means your man’s ready to get down.

Maybe I’m just pickier than most, but if my mind isn’t fully absorbed in the act, I just don’t enjoy it at all. Sure, I’m usually still up for giving the lady a nice ride, but I spend most of that time wishing there was a TV on the ceiling so I could watch Firefly. There are a few nice triggers that get me personally in the right frame of mind, but here are a few things that you might want to consider. Most of these involve a little bit of research, but it’ll pay off big time in the end.

Give him what he’s never had. You know that whole “the grass is always greener” line? Well there’s a bit of truth there. Got a shy or maybe a bit nerdy guy? Try being aggressive. Got a stud who knows it? Play it coy. Novelty value can go a long way, just don’t overplay it, or you risk boredom.

Monkey see, monkey do. If he can tell there’s not a thought on your mind except imminent lovemaking, that can be enough to get him to the same point. It is possible to try too hard in the bedroom (or wherever you happen to like it). Just drop the hesitation and let fly. Results should be immediately noticeable.

Pleasure is about the senses……so be sure to choose the right ones. You can’t go wrong with letting him see and hear you. Clothes are great, because each new garment lets him see something new about you. Talking to him, before and during. After can get a little weird, depending on your particular choice of mate.

Let him know it’s about him too…… not just what’s dangling twixt his legs. If he thinks you’re just trying to get him hard, it can make him feel like a cheap toy. This is a really simple one, but something that can be disastrous if neglected. The idea of being chosen specifically taps into those primal instincts that say “you’re the head of the pack”. Most women can accomplish this by crooking a finger. The best know how to do it with a smile.

In the end (as I’ve said before) it all usually comes down to a little bit of research. Nobody expects you to get it right on the first try (well, nobody worth being with anyway). Spending one evening in a bar with me wouldn’t automatically grant you the knowledge that I have a weakness for bathing suits, redheads, and aggressive women. But most men will appreciate you taking the time to try and figure out these things. And if you’re lucky enough to hook a smart guy (smart people always, always make better lovers) then usually he’ll recognize what you’re trying to do and give you a nudge in the right direction…

yes please.
hope to play.
sooner than later.

How about just be a WOMAN. Be soft and slinky and sexy in high heels and silk. I don’t want to read a personals ad that reads “I’m a tomboy who loves sports.” You can’t go wrong with your basic femininity.

You know how good a man looks in a good suit? It goes both ways.