Comments on: Unleashing Your Vixen: Some Serious Thoughts http://www.smutandsteff.com/2006/02/unleashing-your-vixen-some-serious-thoughts.html Thu, 18 Mar 2010 23:15:28 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: A Scribe Called Steff http://www.smutandsteff.com/2006/02/unleashing-your-vixen-some-serious-thoughts.html/comment-page-1#comment-6394 A Scribe Called Steff Sat, 11 Oct 2008 03:58:38 +0000 http://www.smuttysteff.com/?p=161#comment-6394 ANOTHER COMMENT FROM WHEN THIS WAS REPOSTED: September Posted September 9, 2007 at 12:33 am | Permalink | Edit Hey, Steff, what you are saying here really hit home. I was abused as a child and only now–years later–am I beginning to find the courage to go out there and explore sex with more confidence than I used to have. But it’s a constant fight against self-doubt. So your comments help me believe that I can give and receive pleasure. Thanks. ANOTHER COMMENT FROM WHEN THIS WAS REPOSTED:

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Posted September 9, 2007 at 12:33 am | Permalink | Edit

Hey, Steff, what you are saying here really hit home. I was abused as a child and only now–years later–am I beginning to find the courage to go out there and explore sex with more confidence than I used to have. But it’s a constant fight against self-doubt. So your comments help me believe that I can give and receive pleasure. Thanks.

]]> By: Don http://www.smutandsteff.com/2006/02/unleashing-your-vixen-some-serious-thoughts.html/comment-page-1#comment-1554 Don Thu, 23 Feb 2006 03:55:00 +0000 http://www.smuttysteff.com/?p=161#comment-1554 Your words about your mother and father are so poignant; he didn't know what happened when she was 12? Not the definition of marriage that I prefer. She wasn't afraid of anything; except she kept so much of herself hidden even after you had matured. How incredibly sad. <br/><br/>Best of luck in your new endevor. Your words about your mother and father are so poignant; he didn’t know what happened when she was 12? Not the definition of marriage that I prefer. She wasn’t afraid of anything; except she kept so much of herself hidden even after you had matured. How incredibly sad.

Best of luck in your new endevor.

]]> By: Goose and Gander http://www.smutandsteff.com/2006/02/unleashing-your-vixen-some-serious-thoughts.html/comment-page-1#comment-1520 Goose and Gander Sat, 18 Feb 2006 23:19:00 +0000 http://www.smuttysteff.com/?p=161#comment-1520 Beautiful post. Fear. What it does, huh? We are so lucky in this time and place, that we have the option of being vixens, of changing our lives. So many don't. Use your gifts to better the world, Steff, to make it so that other people, other girls, women and men can live fully too.<br/>I hear you about parent's dying. My dad died when I was young and its always with me.<br/>Goose Beautiful post. Fear. What it does, huh? We are so lucky in this time and place, that we have the option of being vixens, of changing our lives. So many don’t. Use your gifts to better the world, Steff, to make it so that other people, other girls, women and men can live fully too.
I hear you about parent’s dying. My dad died when I was young and its always with me.
Goose

]]> By: scribe called steff http://www.smutandsteff.com/2006/02/unleashing-your-vixen-some-serious-thoughts.html/comment-page-1#comment-1519 scribe called steff Sat, 18 Feb 2006 15:47:00 +0000 http://www.smuttysteff.com/?p=161#comment-1519 I'm about five minutes away from buying that late 80s/early 90s pop-psychology classic, "Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway." It's such a great bit of advice. Feel the fear, then do it anyway.<br/><br/>The thing that people don't get about fear is that it's not supposed to stop you from doing things, it's supposed to make you slow down, do it right, and appreciate it more when it all comes out proper.<br/><br/>Fear rocks. Most of the time. I still wimp out and let it kick my ass sometimes, though. I’m about five minutes away from buying that late 80s/early 90s pop-psychology classic, “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway.” It’s such a great bit of advice. Feel the fear, then do it anyway.

The thing that people don’t get about fear is that it’s not supposed to stop you from doing things, it’s supposed to make you slow down, do it right, and appreciate it more when it all comes out proper.

Fear rocks. Most of the time. I still wimp out and let it kick my ass sometimes, though.

]]> By: LolaGetz http://www.smutandsteff.com/2006/02/unleashing-your-vixen-some-serious-thoughts.html/comment-page-1#comment-1516 LolaGetz Sat, 18 Feb 2006 04:44:00 +0000 http://www.smuttysteff.com/?p=161#comment-1516 And hell, "Don't let fear or commen sense stop you!"<br/><br/>Amen to that, sistah! And hell, “Don’t let fear or commen sense stop you!”

Amen to that, sistah!

]]> By: scribe called steff http://www.smutandsteff.com/2006/02/unleashing-your-vixen-some-serious-thoughts.html/comment-page-1#comment-1515 scribe called steff Sat, 18 Feb 2006 03:02:00 +0000 http://www.smuttysteff.com/?p=161#comment-1515 April -- I think we all have those ruts, but some of us just never fully come alive, so it's sort of important for those who are living life sorta undead to come to terms with exactly what they're doing to themselves, and me, I was just in a place where I sort of needed to touch on that today.<br/><br/>Personally, I've been in one of those ruts -- surviving, getting by -- and I'm fucking tired of it. This is my weekend where it all kind of changes. This is one of those posts that I'm using to remind myself of who I am, and who's kind of slipped away from me since about mid-November. Honestly, though, it happens in small degrees each winter for me. Heh. I'm cyclical.<br/><br/>Sartre -- LOL! Rand hater! Heh. I'm long past my naivete about Ayn Rand, and there are qualities of her teachings I agree with and live by, but like most philosophy, I know it exists in a very surreal world where the only shades are black and white -- very idealized, and Rand is guiltier of that than most.<br/><br/>Still, there are aspects of her stuff that has merit, and there ARE quotes worth quoting.<br/><br/>Although, I think you're slagging me for again quoting Rand since I seem to recall you lambasting me for citing her once before -- and I bet you dollars to donuts this is the same fucking quote I said then. Heh. Quoting Rand is NOT something I do in abundance, and in fact, the only quote I ever cite is this one.<br/><br/>Because it's worth mentioning. :)<br/><br/>But I like your comment about the obstacles. Nicely put. April — I think we all have those ruts, but some of us just never fully come alive, so it’s sort of important for those who are living life sorta undead to come to terms with exactly what they’re doing to themselves, and me, I was just in a place where I sort of needed to touch on that today.

Personally, I’ve been in one of those ruts — surviving, getting by — and I’m fucking tired of it. This is my weekend where it all kind of changes. This is one of those posts that I’m using to remind myself of who I am, and who’s kind of slipped away from me since about mid-November. Honestly, though, it happens in small degrees each winter for me. Heh. I’m cyclical.

Sartre — LOL! Rand hater! Heh. I’m long past my naivete about Ayn Rand, and there are qualities of her teachings I agree with and live by, but like most philosophy, I know it exists in a very surreal world where the only shades are black and white — very idealized, and Rand is guiltier of that than most.

Still, there are aspects of her stuff that has merit, and there ARE quotes worth quoting.

Although, I think you’re slagging me for again quoting Rand since I seem to recall you lambasting me for citing her once before — and I bet you dollars to donuts this is the same fucking quote I said then. Heh. Quoting Rand is NOT something I do in abundance, and in fact, the only quote I ever cite is this one.

Because it’s worth mentioning. :)

But I like your comment about the obstacles. Nicely put.

]]> By: sartre http://www.smutandsteff.com/2006/02/unleashing-your-vixen-some-serious-thoughts.html/comment-page-1#comment-1514 sartre Sat, 18 Feb 2006 02:45:00 +0000 http://www.smuttysteff.com/?p=161#comment-1514 You make a good point. Survival is only half the story, living is an art and a mystery far beyond simple existence. Live, love, and learn, despite the obstacles from within and without.<br/><br/>More quotes from Ayn Rand! Mutter, grumble, etc... You make a good point. Survival is only half the story, living is an art and a mystery far beyond simple existence. Live, love, and learn, despite the obstacles from within and without.

More quotes from Ayn Rand! Mutter, grumble, etc…

]]> By: April http://www.smutandsteff.com/2006/02/unleashing-your-vixen-some-serious-thoughts.html/comment-page-1#comment-1513 April Sat, 18 Feb 2006 01:20:00 +0000 http://www.smuttysteff.com/?p=161#comment-1513 What a lovely photo! <br/><br/>The things you've mentioned in this post are things that I'm realizing again in my life. Things that I've not been doing for some time....living life, that is. I've let myself be drawn into a marriage of the type I promised myself i never would. But...I'm moving out & on and learning to follow that path to freedom, to my inner vixen. I'm doing things I never would have before...and I'm loving it.<br/><br/>Thanks for this post...it provokes quite the thought. What a lovely photo!

The things you’ve mentioned in this post are things that I’m realizing again in my life. Things that I’ve not been doing for some time….living life, that is. I’ve let myself be drawn into a marriage of the type I promised myself i never would. But…I’m moving out & on and learning to follow that path to freedom, to my inner vixen. I’m doing things I never would have before…and I’m loving it.

Thanks for this post…it provokes quite the thought.

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