Monthly Archives: March 2006

All About Oral: Odor, Etiquette, and Why Some Women Don’t Want It

So, I received an interesting email recently, and the reader had this to ask:
I was wondering what your opinion is on oral sex etiquette. For guys AND girls, is one obliged to kiss someone who just finished going down on you? If your partner doesn’t feel like swallowing, what should he do about his come?
Personally, [...]

The Relationship Ride

When I was a little girl, I liked the “nice” rides at amusement parks. The Tilt-a-Whirl was a favourite. There’d be those moments when you’d spin wildly and you’d verge on nausea, and then it’d slow on down, and you’d settle back into an easy pace. It was unpredictable, but never dangerous, and never scary. [...]

Polyamory: My Take?

Polyamory – it’s the new bi, man. Everyone’s doing it, so why aren’t you?
Oh, you haven’t heard? All right, then. Polyamory’s basically the “new” polygamy, ‘cept polygamy’s against the law, and since no one’s getting hitched, polyamory’s legal.
I’ve been asked, oh, a few times now to weigh in on the topic. So, you wanna know [...]

A Sexcipe — Balsamic Strawberries & Pepper

Had a long, doting visit with The Guy at the hospital. I’m good like that. He’ll hopefully be home tonight, and if not, Thursday. Honestly, I’m not much in the mood to write today, though, considering. Kind of sucks to meet someone great then find out they have about 3-4 months of being on crutches, [...]

Damn you, Cosmos!

The Boyfriend just called. He slipped and fell on his way to work this morning, and is now in the hospital with a compounded broken ankle.
Bummer, for lack of a better word. Poor guy. Broken in three places and he needs surgery. Sigh. Shitty, shitty. But the sweetie calls me from the hospital so I [...]

What Happens In Vegas, Stays In Vegas (Baby)

I stirred up a little controversy with this posting the other day when I said most women didn’t like porn sex. C’mon, a girl can have some fun, n’est ce pas?
I love aggressive sex. I love a mix. I come with my own multi-speed. I can’t do the same thing all the time, and when [...]

Confessions of a Serial Kisser

Nice, full lips: I can’t get enough of them. I bite, nibble, and suck them with little regard for consequences. I acquiesce to an invading tongue like a defenseless village against raiders. Enter at will, I silently command, unwilling to put up a fight, but ready to engage regardless.
I nibble, bite, lick, and suck my [...]

The Blogger’s Code, A Reminder

A few of us sexy bloggers have had our work stolen of late, republished by others, who are claiming our work as their own.
I could be nice about this, but why bother? The deal is, we bust our asses to try and create unique content as often as we’re able. I try to post, for [...]

Our Tale of Many Coincidences

Since The Guy gave me his consent to share this tale with ya, here goes.
Have you ever seen When Harry Met Sally? Remember the cute vignettes that pepper the film? Old couples talking about the coincidences that brought them together?
Well, The Guy and I have our own Tale of Many Coincidences, and it’s why both [...]

Sugasm #27

The best of the sex blogs by the bloggers who blog them, courtesy of Sugarbank.
BDSM/FetishHNT #4 - Assume the Position (avaadora.blogspot.com)I Don’t Mind it Rough (tangysweet.blogspot.com)Kneeling (alwaysarousedgirl.blogspot.com)Making Love in the Rain Revisited (redvelvetropeburn.blogspot.com)Monde Imaginaire (theninthwave.typepad.com)The Notorious Bettie Page (sugarbank.com)Sadist Taking What is His (theheronclan.blogspot.com)Spanking Site Review: Bars and Stripes (adelehaze.com)Thigh High Boots (video) (thebootcam.com)Training and [...]

Golly, he likes me, he really likes me

Bacchus gave me a little whorage over at his inimitable Erosblog. Thanks, B. XO.

I Don’t Wanna Be Your Dog

(This originally ran last fall on NYHotties.com. Some edits have been made, between that version and this, but it’s never ran on here. Happy weekend, kids.)
I’m sorry, Iggy, but it’s true.
This one goes out to the porn school boys. Yeah. You know who you are. The guys who watch porn and think women actually want [...]

Some thoughts at 3:30 AM

The Guy is a foodie, which I quite like, since I’m a foodie too. There’s nothing like cooking for someone who *gets* what the effort is, and who appreciates the subtleties of a well-designed meal. I’m hatching a scheme for a really nice meal I’d like to cook for him, now that I know I [...]

Too close a look at poverty

The average North American is two paychecks away from potentially living on the street. I’ve been a little too close to that precipice, myself, as I’ve been waiting to hear about some money owed to me by the government, et cetera. Earlier today, I was sitting on my couch, near tears, terrified of whether or [...]

Lenny Bruce, Obscenity’s Legacy, and Today’s News

I wrote this late last night, when I should have been in bed. I was out for coffee this morning when The Guy emailed me with a link and said, “This will make you very angry.” Rightly so. It turns out the Supreme Court of the US has decided not to hear a case on [...]

Twats and Knives: Together at Last

I was sent this story recently by a reader, detailing about this new trend of women going under the knife to alter aspects of their vaginal regions. I’m sure there are valid reasons to do so from time to time, but really… what the fuck are people thinking?

Plastic surgery is something I despise. Packaging, that’s [...]

Some fighting words

I’d like to take a moment, in light of the third anniversary of the Iraq War, to thank my readers in the military forces over there. Apparently it’s a pleasant surprise that they’re able to access my site despite some filters on their servers over there. Well, it’s pleasant for us both, I assure you.
I’ve [...]

A Word from the Management

It seems I’m getting into bed with slutty silent-silent partner. Ooh! He Who Must Not Be Named* will be fronting all the technology for your little smuteur (that’s me!) to do a podcast. Maybe (gasp) — MAYBE — even two podcasts, maybe one involving actual interaction with you, the audience. (That depends if we can [...]

Filler — A couple good jokes for you

It’s a Monday, and it could be a Very Good Day, depending what goes down, so I don’t want to write right now. I don’t want to tamper with my headspace. It’s sunny, blissful, beautiful out today, and I’m about to head out into the world on my Eurotrash scooter, and plan to find my [...]

Call, for fuck’s sake!

So, date two has come and gone, rather successfully, and a third hovers somewhere on the unspecified horizon.
Now, I’m luckier than the average girl because I have this — a mighty, mighty good decoder ring — available for The Guy to peruse and see what it is I dig or don’t. Because The Guy has [...]

Being Alone And Dealing

I’m weird, one of my best times for getting inspired to write is during housecleaning. I think it’s a procrastination thing. I wasn’t planning on posting, but I checked my comments and one made me think. Then I started doing the dishes, and snap, crackle, pop, a memory kicked in, and next thing you know, [...]

Sugasm #26

(This is my first time in the Sugasm — I never realized it was a submit-your-stuff thing — and what it is, for those of you who’ve never really checked it out, is a list of all the good stuff to read off sex blogs from the past week. Some good readin’ here, kids.)
The best [...]