1. Anonymous
Posted April 7, 2007 at 12:25 pm | Permalink | Edit

“Men can begin having sex younger and have positive results sooner, provided they know what they’re doing, but for women, more than 30% will not orgasm until well past their 20th birthday… You have to know that the best sex of your life will not come until after the age of 25, if not after the age of 30.”

I am going to have to disagree with you there Steff. I began having sex at a young age, however, I decided to educate myself before I started having sex. I read every edition of the Kama Sutra, Joy of Sex, and almost every sex education book there was. The guy I was with was significantly older than me which sort of helped because he did not rush me, was gentle, and he knew what he was doing. Of course like everyone I was nervous and anxious my first time, but it was still a wonderful experience. Unlike the horror stories I was hearing from my friends with their same age boyfriends about blood and tears all over the sheets, mine while not a passionate mind blowing sexcapade, was enjoyable. He was attentive and made me feel special and beautiful which is exactly what a young girl needs. By the age of 17 I was having multiple orgasms and by 18 I must say I turned into a sex fiend, I could not get enough, however it must be with the right person just like you said for me to be fully satisfied. I have had sex with a few people I did not know too well and while the sex was incredible it always felt like something was missing afterwards. I don’t think we can put an age on great sex just as we can’t put an age on when it is right to fall in love. It all depends on the individual and their partner.

2. scribe called steff
Posted April 7, 2007 at 12:44 pm | Permalink | Edit

You can disagree with me all you like. :) But statistics are on my side. Even women I know who were having good sex at a young age state that it has improved with their age, too, despite having been good the whole time. Yes, partners make a big difference. Yes, education is a huge factor.

But there’s a pocket of women that, no matter how hard they try, will not orgasm until their 20s. Did I say all? No. 30% isn’t a number I picked out of the air. Science says, ergo…

Too many young women have hangups of a hundred different kinds. It is what it is.

But thanks for the nice comments. :) I was sorta proud of this one, and was hoping I’d hear a bit more but it’s a slow full-moon weekend thing, I guess, or something. It happens.

Having said that, though, the piece itself is incredible! Very well written and speaks almost point for point my philosophy about what sex is all about. Kudos!

~SG

Vistana — PSST! Don’t tell ‘em! Let ‘em work harder! lol. Yeah, I forget about that problem sometimes. I’m kind of mid-level on moisture, myself, sometimes more than that. It’s one of those things that a chick’s just gotta tell him if she’s ready, sometimes.

I’ll modify the post a tad now, though, so guys know there’s more than one type. Thanks.

Have to disagree with that one. Not often, but sometimes i can be incredibly desperately aroused and just not producing much lubrication. And I’m pretty sure it’s not just me either.

-vistana