Comments on: Stress and Relationships http://www.smutandsteff.com/2006/04/stress-and-relationships.html Thu, 18 Mar 2010 23:15:28 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: A Scribe Called Steff http://www.smutandsteff.com/2006/04/stress-and-relationships.html/comment-page-1#comment-6402 A Scribe Called Steff Sat, 11 Oct 2008 04:54:57 +0000 http://www.smuttysteff.com/?p=255#comment-6402 FROM WHEN I REPOSTED THIS: Anonymous Posted November 8, 2006 at 10:08 pm | Permalink | Edit Thank you. That is all. FROM WHEN I REPOSTED THIS:

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Posted November 8, 2006 at 10:08 pm | Permalink | Edit

Thank you. That is all.

]]> By: Haaaaaaa http://www.smutandsteff.com/2006/04/stress-and-relationships.html/comment-page-1#comment-2263 Haaaaaaa Tue, 18 Apr 2006 14:43:00 +0000 http://www.smuttysteff.com/?p=255#comment-2263 It's funny how we make tacit deals with ourselves that get us in trouble. I always forget that my wife can't hear what I am thinking and doesn't have access to the little scoreboard in my head.<br/><br/>I have learned to tell her when something is bothering me or when I am in a bad mood. It is not her job to validate me, just to listen and know what's going on with me. It really helps our interaction, when I remember to communicate even the bad stuff. It’s funny how we make tacit deals with ourselves that get us in trouble. I always forget that my wife can’t hear what I am thinking and doesn’t have access to the little scoreboard in my head.

I have learned to tell her when something is bothering me or when I am in a bad mood. It is not her job to validate me, just to listen and know what’s going on with me. It really helps our interaction, when I remember to communicate even the bad stuff.

]]> By: myself http://www.smutandsteff.com/2006/04/stress-and-relationships.html/comment-page-1#comment-2261 myself Tue, 18 Apr 2006 10:52:00 +0000 http://www.smuttysteff.com/?p=255#comment-2261 Hence is my theory (rough one that it is) that one must find the partner that irritates them the least! <br/><br/>I do sort of kid, but having been married for a while, I do wonder if that's not the case! Hence is my theory (rough one that it is) that one must find the partner that irritates them the least!

I do sort of kid, but having been married for a while, I do wonder if that’s not the case!

]]> By: Cherrie http://www.smutandsteff.com/2006/04/stress-and-relationships.html/comment-page-1#comment-2259 Cherrie Tue, 18 Apr 2006 04:56:00 +0000 http://www.smuttysteff.com/?p=255#comment-2259 Are we most annoyed by the minor transgressions of those closest to us more because we subconsciously want them to be perfect? Because we want to extend the honeymoon a little longer?<br/><br/>I'm not the first to observe that, for a relationship to survive, the partners must accept, or at least tolerate, each other's aggravating behavior. And each partner has the corresponding obligation not to be too aggravating.<br/><br/>Best of luck to you two. Are we most annoyed by the minor transgressions of those closest to us more because we subconsciously want them to be perfect? Because we want to extend the honeymoon a little longer?

I’m not the first to observe that, for a relationship to survive, the partners must accept, or at least tolerate, each other’s aggravating behavior. And each partner has the corresponding obligation not to be too aggravating.

Best of luck to you two.

]]> By: swamps http://www.smutandsteff.com/2006/04/stress-and-relationships.html/comment-page-1#comment-2258 swamps Mon, 17 Apr 2006 20:33:00 +0000 http://www.smuttysteff.com/?p=255#comment-2258 hi -- i'm new to your blog and am enjoying your ruminations quite a bit... but i just wanted to comment on relationships. i think a really important component is that both people want to make it work. and there's always going to be crap in a relationship. always. that's why you want to see the "bad" in the other person, and for them to see that in you so that they are not disillusioned by who you are. this is who you really are. and love is acceptance of this. <br/><br/>in the end, that short-and-sweet honeymoon phase is nothing more than a hoax. usually it has nothing to do with the other person, rather it's your little dream being fulfilled until reality sets in some time later. too bad we can't buy a pill to give us that little high.<br/><br/>real love is endurance. going through the bad times and the good. it seems like if you can weather the bad times together there's a real bond created between you two, like, "look what we went through and we still like each other!!!"<br/><br/>of course i say this all because i was recently dumped... because my guy did not love me for who i am, which included my bitchy sides. because my guy could not think beyond himself. and we have a child. *sigh* hi — i’m new to your blog and am enjoying your ruminations quite a bit… but i just wanted to comment on relationships. i think a really important component is that both people want to make it work. and there’s always going to be crap in a relationship. always. that’s why you want to see the “bad” in the other person, and for them to see that in you so that they are not disillusioned by who you are. this is who you really are. and love is acceptance of this.

in the end, that short-and-sweet honeymoon phase is nothing more than a hoax. usually it has nothing to do with the other person, rather it’s your little dream being fulfilled until reality sets in some time later. too bad we can’t buy a pill to give us that little high.

real love is endurance. going through the bad times and the good. it seems like if you can weather the bad times together there’s a real bond created between you two, like, “look what we went through and we still like each other!!!”

of course i say this all because i was recently dumped… because my guy did not love me for who i am, which included my bitchy sides. because my guy could not think beyond himself. and we have a child. *sigh*

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