So I hit “print” and indulged in a mid-afternoon candlelit bubble bath with a cup of cocoa and Steff’s latest rant. And true to form, Steff delivered the goods! Kudos, Girl. ;) I love your smokin’ quill and how you shoot it straight into the bull’s-eye.

And, hey. *shrug* If someone makes poly-amorous inquiries — whether verbal or spelled out in seductive pantomime, a nice-turned-naughty game of scrabble, or the execution of a highly optional Twister maneuver — what can you do but take it as a compliment? We’re fabulous, Darlin’! Can’t blame people for noticin’ the basic facts.

I was on the verge of being offended the first time I was asked to be part of a ménage a quatre, until I realized that judgment is always the forerunner to offense. So I just smiled, politely declined and slipped back into my warm fantasy wherein I meet an intimacy junkie and we ride off into the sunset together to shoot up on monogamy.

What’s tough to not take offense at though, is when you turn someone down for “Drive-Thru Sex” and they try to guilt you into it with: “Come on, we’re all adults here . . . ” (Nothing like a little litigious banter to set the mood, eh?) *Rolling eyes* Is it just me or does resorting to bully-sex not exactly reek of dignity? On the upside, offering to buy the bully a hooker for the evening has proven effective on more than one occasion.

Well, keep that quill smokin’, Steff! I really appreciate coming in here and having you rant away for me so I don’t have to break a sweat doin’ it myself.

S.

Perhaps those you claim assume you associate irresponsible moralists with religion overall, are really just as angry as you and are only trying to disassociate themselves from these fools. Maybe you’re not actually being taken the wrong way!

I’m sorry you were once made to believe you had to be within four walls to praise and that it was man who set the standards. This is not the God I worship, and he surely doesn’t “take issue” with me. He’s a little more mature than that. This is about love. If anything, he grieves when I’m not seeking him.

Funnily, I work with a bunch of Muslims now, and they’re wonderful good people. I in no way associate the actions of terrorists with the religion, but instead with overzealousness and a raping of a belief system to justify one’s own actions. It’s reprehensible no matter what God’s name it’s committed in.

I long ago stopped believing I had to be within the four walls built by a man to praise my idea of God. I’ve long ago stopped believing I need any man on earth to tell me I’m living up to the standards of any deity. I know the morals I espouse. I know the ethics I live by. If any god takes issue with it, then I would see fit to take issue with him.

I would never presume to associate irresponsible moralists like the ones I’m talking about with a religion overall. It’s too bad it always gets taken that way when one of us expresses anger at the misuse of faith. Sigh.

DH — Good points. I agree.

Hanh — As a Canadian, I can’t really argue what the American culture is without sounding like a bigot. I’ll let you do it. Heh.

Like I say, I don’t think polygamy should be outlawed. It’s ironic to live in a “free” country where certain person’s freedoms are squelched because others see fault in it.

I disagree with polygamy and suspect most people living that lifestyle cock it right the hell up, but then again a lot of straight married “normal” people make a mockery of that institution anyhow. Why the hypocrisy, huh?

What I have read is that you should actually rejoice and delight in life’s troubles. Not, go around screaming “persecution”.

I do know what he wants. He wants me to live a life of joy and delight. You don’t hear me going around screaming about my delight in him, I just live in it. The one’s you hear shouting have unfortunately got his message all wrong and are screwing it up for the rest of the world.

It saddens me to see your comments about this Steff. Not because of what you believe or don’t believe, but because of the loud mouth assholes who got a little tv time and scewed the whole thing for you.

Just like the beauty of the Yukon (or wherever it was) that had you feeling close to “a” God, a true believer’s life should be one which draws you in and makes you wonder “what is it about that person”. Sadly, these people rarely exist anymore. I can only wish to be that kind of person and you’d never know from some of my earlier correspondence.

Maybe someday I’ll be a light in someones life and they’ll want to know what it is about me. It is then that I’ll stake my claim.

peace

Little kid writes on the wall with a crayon, mom comes in, he points to his little brother. President gets a knob slob in the Oval Office and the first words out of his mouth (out of any man’s mouth when he knows he’s busted), “I didn’t do it.”

I think Americans (can’t speak for Canadia) get raised on the concept of denial. The whole “innocent till proven guilty” thing gets permanently etched into our brains and we look for every conceivable and inconceivable excuse to prove that we’re innocent. A puppet to someone or something elses evil ways. (Or Godly ways in the case of polygamist.)

I would try to go scrambling off into how non-married couples always seem to have back-up boy/girlfriends and that polygamists are just doing the same with a wedding ring, but I have to run back to school.