1. Hazza
Posted February 3, 2007 at 3:20 am | Permalink | Edit

Its disgraceful that you are getting few comments, when your writing is so interesting and analytical. Unfortunately this pane only allows a very short response, so will contact you in person also.

I disagree slightly on what you’ve said about cuckolding and cougars.
Firstly, banning words is often a dangerous avenue, given that words are used to describe very specific phenomena or things. Clearly, being cuckolded is a very real phenomenon that has gone on for centuries. It involves an assumption that the man is a victim of the contempt of his wife. But there is also an assumption that he is a fool. The whole village knows what she is doing, but not he. You cannot abolish this meaning.
The same rule goes for cougar, though in a different context. Anyway, it could be seen as a positive phenomenon, with more women today daring to date younger men in a “predatory” style, though they should not be looked down on for their confidence.

2. polyme
Posted April 24, 2007 at 4:34 pm | Permalink | Edit

I have never seen a dictionary definition of “cheating’ saying anything other than being deceived or to practice fraud or dishonesty. even the biblical definition of adultery is defined incorrectly. Throughout the bible there are narrations of leaders and prophets who had more than one wife and even took other wives that weren’t theirs. Even David king of Israel took a woman who was not his and God only punished him for taking as a wife someone who was not his and causing the husband to be killed.
The definition of adultery is taking someone or something which does not belong to you. Sure, today no human should “belong” to any other person but organized religion has corrupted the original meaning to suit their particular bias.
If one gives permission for a wife, husband or either to have a friend with whom they might also have a sexual relationship does not make it ‘cheating’ no matter how society has corrupted the meaning of cheat and adultery. One does not have to accept this for themselves but don’t criticize others if they have chosen that life. It’s not for everyone!

Some days it just makes me wanna crack open a can o’ whupass, y’know? Yeesh. “Noseyparkers,” as gramma woulda said.

And thanks for the anticipation. I like being anticipated.

and i too await the podcast with expectation :)

It’s too bad you paid that price. When you’re in a relationship, though, the choices you make don’t just affect your life. Either you walk the fuck away, or you respect how it shakes down for your partner. Too many people don’t. Hard lessons get learned that way. Here’s hoping you have better luck next time.

Youngster — I define the genre? Holy smokes. Nice of you to say. I love positive feedback, but that’s just crazy talk — I love it!

Thanks for the luck wishes. I think I’ll do all right. I’m starting to get the feel for what I want to achieve. :)

I am a huge fan of your writing. Your blogs define the genre for me.

Keep up the good work and best of luck with your podcasts!

monogamy’s not my thing. it’s really, *really* not. i’ve tried it, tried hard. it makes me miserable to be so completely curtailed. at the same time, i don’t think i could love more than one person, but i don’t see why my sex life should be restricted to one other person because of that.

that choice – that morality – has recently lost me my home, most of my posessions and almost all of my friends. because people who don’t see it my way (ie, almost everybody) decided it was fine to act on their opinions.

i’ve got no problem that you or anyone else doesn’t dig the way i love my life. i don’t choose to live like they do either.

but i do think it’s time people stopped judging other people and *acting* based on that negative judgement, simply because someone’s not doing what you’re doing – whether it’s non-exclusive relationships, dating younger men, whatever.

live your life the way that pleases you and let everyone else do the same, that’s what i say.