Comments on: Domestic Abuse: Redux — And Resources http://www.smutandsteff.com/2006/12/domestic-abuse-redux-and-resources.html Thu, 18 Mar 2010 23:15:28 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: scribe called steff http://www.smutandsteff.com/2006/12/domestic-abuse-redux-and-resources.html/comment-page-1#comment-5174 scribe called steff Thu, 14 Dec 2006 07:19:00 +0000 http://www.smuttysteff.com/?p=1372#comment-5174 Comments come and go. They're weird that way. Some days seem like there's just none for no discernible reason, other days people comment about the silliest of things.<br/><br/>I had a good number of comments on the first abuse posting I did in November. I think it's the kind of topic those who suffer it don't want to discuss, and those who've been there might not feel comfortable admitting just that.<br/><br/>I'm not taking it personally, either way. Bigger fish to fry these days. :) Comments come and go. They’re weird that way. Some days seem like there’s just none for no discernible reason, other days people comment about the silliest of things.

I had a good number of comments on the first abuse posting I did in November. I think it’s the kind of topic those who suffer it don’t want to discuss, and those who’ve been there might not feel comfortable admitting just that.

I’m not taking it personally, either way. Bigger fish to fry these days. :)

]]> By: Mind Maelstrom http://www.smutandsteff.com/2006/12/domestic-abuse-redux-and-resources.html/comment-page-1#comment-5172 Mind Maelstrom Thu, 14 Dec 2006 01:56:00 +0000 http://www.smuttysteff.com/?p=1372#comment-5172 You know, it bothers me that so many people can comment on far less serious topics but as soon as you raise an issue that everyone needs to be aware of no one will speak up anymore... You know, it bothers me that so many people can comment on far less serious topics but as soon as you raise an issue that everyone needs to be aware of no one will speak up anymore…

]]> By: scribe called steff http://www.smutandsteff.com/2006/12/domestic-abuse-redux-and-resources.html/comment-page-1#comment-5171 scribe called steff Wed, 13 Dec 2006 19:03:00 +0000 http://www.smuttysteff.com/?p=1372#comment-5171 Verbal abuse tends to precede physical abuse. And yes, it sucks, too.<br/><br/>I've had an emotionally abusifve relationship, and I was just as bad as he was by the end of it -- we both abused each other's trust. Took a fucking long time to get over it and to realize what I had done as well. I've never been that way since, but... Wish I'd never been that way at all. <br/><br/>Instead of walking away, I sank to his level. I'm not sure I really knew any better, though. I was young. Stupid. All o' that. Verbal abuse tends to precede physical abuse. And yes, it sucks, too.

I’ve had an emotionally abusifve relationship, and I was just as bad as he was by the end of it — we both abused each other’s trust. Took a fucking long time to get over it and to realize what I had done as well. I’ve never been that way since, but… Wish I’d never been that way at all.

Instead of walking away, I sank to his level. I’m not sure I really knew any better, though. I was young. Stupid. All o’ that.

]]> By: Mind Maelstrom http://www.smutandsteff.com/2006/12/domestic-abuse-redux-and-resources.html/comment-page-1#comment-5170 Mind Maelstrom Tue, 12 Dec 2006 23:55:00 +0000 http://www.smuttysteff.com/?p=1372#comment-5170 Steff, your post is great! I have to say though, I think verbal abuse is probably just as bad as physical abuse--one of my friends went from a bubbly person who was a joy to be around to a very depressed person I hardly ever saw. It took me a while to put 2 and 2 together (her boyfriend seemed nice), and it took her even longer to end the relationship. As a friend, it broke my heart to see her go through all this to the point where she thought she wasn't good enough for anything. Steff, your post is great! I have to say though, I think verbal abuse is probably just as bad as physical abuse–one of my friends went from a bubbly person who was a joy to be around to a very depressed person I hardly ever saw. It took me a while to put 2 and 2 together (her boyfriend seemed nice), and it took her even longer to end the relationship. As a friend, it broke my heart to see her go through all this to the point where she thought she wasn’t good enough for anything.

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