[Someone made a cute little comment on Twitter, about how amusing it is that Canadians care so much about the American election. Why do we? Because anything America does tends to affect Canada, that's why. Protectionist folks want Bush, err, McSame, to win so our trade policies don't get negatively impacted. People like me, however, [...]
In vino veritas.
The price of truth, it seems, runs $9.99 per 750 mils. Yum.
I’ve recently cut out my crack-like addiction to the tasty, chewy, buttery, vanilla-y Rice Krispie squares from the market down the street. That, coupled with yoga and a few more veggies in my diet as well as weight-lifting, and I’m noticing (just [...]
I wrote this back in March. I don’t have the time, really, to write in the morning, got home late tonight after dinner out. A thing or two to say of that at another time, probably.
But in honour of the awesome happenstance down south today, when Obama officially accepted the nomination and made what was [...]
A reader, Dp, just happened to ask me to maybe touch on the difference between a person’s sexuality and the person. He and I sort of look at the equation differently, I suppose, but it’s something I’ve been considering a lot.
I’ve placed a sexual encounters personal of late, trying to find that elusive friends-with-benefit situation [...]
By A Scribe Called Steff
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Posted in Best of Steff, Dating, Journalling, Lifestyle, Loving and Knowing Yourself, Self-Love & Self-Esteem, Sex, Specifically Steff
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Tagged companionship, friends with benefits, searching for love, settling for less, sexuality, single
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So, I’ve been dating more of late. Averaging one date a week these days, and it’s all right. Nobody has yet made me pitter-patter, but we’re getting better on the averages here.
My big sexual misadventure of a couple of weeks was the classic case of pulling the trigger way too soon (in more ways than [...]
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Posted in Best of Steff, Dating, Ethics, Hygiene & Health, Journalling, Psychology & Moods, Self-Love & Self-Esteem, Sex, Specifically Steff
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Tagged conundrums, Dating, having to choose, past versus present, weight loss
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…As long as we’re living in a world where people are still carrying placards that reads “God hates fags” and are dressing their kids in shirts like these? Yeah, I’m going to make a comment when fuckwits banter about words that sound a little laced with hate and judgment and 1960s mentality, thinking they’re all witty and cute. Somebody should. And I fucking VOLUNTEER.
By A Scribe Called Steff
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Posted in Best of Steff, Communication, Ethics, Gay or Straight?, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Politics, Religion, Steff Rants, Twitter
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Tagged bigotry, get a thesaurus, kicking ass and taking names, words do hurt
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I did the first Get to Know Yer Blogger because I was too exhausted to think in linear fashion. But then I had fun doing it.
I figure, what the hell, let’s keep this wagon wheel rolling. I don’t live the wildest of lives, but it’s interesting enough. And writing these sorts of snippets all [...]
today’s a mental health saturday. two solid weeks of insomnia finally broke for me last night at 9 when exhaustion washed over me like november rain. every part of my body collectively sighed and said “we give up” and i fell asleep on the couch at 9:30. on a friday night. i know, eh?
but my [...]
So, remember the reader who wrote me a couple weeks back to say that her hubby sucked ass at oral, and had for 25 years?
Now, a bunch of guys wrote comments, saying, “Well, maybe it’s not all his fault”, but what I’d neglected to say was that we’d exchanged about a half-dozen emails or so [...]
I feel like telling you random things about me, mostly because I’m too fucking tired to string coherent thoughts together, so “abstract” works spiff for me. And I’m not writing about sex today, so, y’know. Mental break. :)
So, in no particular order, some of the things you probably don’t know about me and my life.
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I am militant now, in my “old” age, about protection during sex. The question is, why isn’t everyone?
The images, albeit creepy and disturbing, are some very effective AIDS-awareness posters from France. I thought they illustrated this posting well.
A reader named Helen left a great comment today on a posting I think everyone should read, personally, [...]
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Posted in AIDS & STDs, Best of Steff, Dating, Hygiene & Health, Laws, Men's Department, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Questions From Readers, Sex, Society, Steff Rants, Women's Department
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Tagged casual sex, transmitting AIDS or HIV, unprotected sexx, what if he won't wear a condom
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insomnia… when you’re alone, you feel more alone. when you’re not, embracing a little mischief goes a long way. some thoughts of mine just now:
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3:59am. insomnia. and i’m thinking of you.
a distraction. that’s what you’d be. plain and simple. a way for me to take my mind of what i’m really wanting, sleep.
if i can’t [...]
I’m a foodie. Yes, I am.
And I got to tell ya, he prospect of regular sex has begun to loom, and this excites me considerably. Sets me all a-flutter, truth be told. But, you know, for all those strenuous hours of fun that potentially loom, one requires fuel. Enter food.
So I’m not sure what excites [...]
By A Scribe Called Steff
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Posted in Best of Steff, Dating, Food & Recipes, Foreplay & Arousing, Journalling, Lust & Longing, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Sex, Specifically Steff
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Tagged cooking with lovers, food, foodie, foreplay, sensualism, Sex, teasing, using food in sex
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It’s laundry day. Unfortunate. I need something cute and adorable to wear to the beach party tonight, and right now “cute and adorable” is filthy.
But my terrorist neighbour — which is just a term of affection conjured by GayBoy and I — beat me to the washing machine and now it’ll be a challenge to [...]
Hey, wow! Just noticed as I was adding the comments to my archive postings on how to give GREAT head [starts here] that it was three years ago today I published that posting that defined this blog. Aww! Let’s hear it for nostalgia.
So, it’s fitting then, we should have a little chat about blowjobs today. [...]
By A Scribe Called Steff
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Posted in Best of Steff, Dating, Etiquette, Foreplay & Arousing, Men's Department, Modern Feminism, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Oral Sex, Specifically Steff, casual sex
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Tagged foreplay, gag reflex, giving head, Oral Sex, orgasms, penises, Sex
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Vancouver’s caught in a beautiful sexy beast of a heatwave that has me dreading cyclerides to work… but loving it at the same time.
GayBoy taught me this trick a year or two on a barbecue of a day, and it’s awesome to use at times.
Just put 5-6 inches of cooold water in the bathtub and [...]
You know, this whole recovering-Catholic thing plays so badly with writing any kind of exposés about my own sex life.
I feel horribly guilty, like a first-class cunt, for having posted my thingie about my “underwhelming weekend sex” yesterday. But then I got to thinking about it.
First, I placed an ad for sex. I made it [...]
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Posted in Best of Steff, Dating, Men's Department, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Oral Sex, Sex, Specifically Steff, Steff Rants, casual sex
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Tagged bad lovers, bad sex, no foreplay, premature ejaculation, what not to do
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Yesterday, I made rather not-so-subtle reference to the fact that I finally got laid last weekend in this posting. I wasn’t going to say anything, really, because I was decidedly underwhelmed by the experience.
But then, you know, I thought, “It’s for the greater good! People must know!” So, without getting into detail here, let’s [...]
By A Scribe Called Steff
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Posted in Best of Steff, Dating, Humour, Journalling, Sex, Specifically Steff, Steff Rants, casual sex, dysfunction
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Tagged bad lovers, bad sex, shoulda said no, what not to do
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I’m thinking about crossing that line in my moral sand.
I’ve always been the one-guy-one-gal type, but I’m starting to wonder if maybe it’s just the old Catholic/societal brainwashing, and whether, maybe, I’m really built a little differently than what “tradition” often serves up.
I think I ultimately prefer monogamy. But I think the notion of having [...]
By A Scribe Called Steff
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Posted in Best of Steff, Dating, Journalling, Sex, Society, Specifically Steff, casual sex
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Tagged casual sex, conundrums, open monogamy, poly, random encounters, weighing the options
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There’s a scene in The Tailor of Panama in which Pierce Brosnan, as Andy Osnard, a British spy reassigned to Panama, is shown his new office for the first time by his hot but too tense new colleague.
He wanders to a safe in the wall above his new desk and starts trying to crack the [...]
By A Scribe Called Steff
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Posted in Advice, Best of Steff, Hygiene & Health, Loving and Knowing Yourself, Masturbation, Orgasm Trouble, Sex Toys & Aids, Women's Department, dysfunction
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Tagged benefits of masturbation, dildos, sextoys are more than toys, vaginal health, vibrators, why you should masturbate
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Ahh, minions. Just another manic Monday, hey?
I know being outside of my bed is the last place I want to be this morning. Working for eight hours? Even less appealing.
No, a perfect day for me today would be getting up, having a hot oily bath, smoking up, going back to bed, and praying the gods [...]
