Comments on: A Frank Posting about Giving Head

By: Scribe Called Steff

Scribe Called Steff — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 06:13:00 +0000

Nat -- Nice to know guys sometimes feel that way, too. From the number of casual encounters explicitly seeking oral on dating sites, it's pretty easy for us women to be skeptical of fellas like you -- assuming you're a guy?

CJ -- Not sure what to comment on, so. :)

Ellie -- Excellent. We agree. Thanks for the linkage!

Griffin -- Thanks!

Bassringer -- You know, it's funny, the most appreciated blowjob I ever gave, I was 28, and my lover was a 23-year-old from the States, and I blew his fucking mind (pun intended) because he'd never been able to convince a girl to give him head. I was always under the impression Americans got it less, so who knows.

Or maybe they're just giving bad head. I don't know. :)

But I don't think it should be saved for marriage, either! Or even a serious longterm relationship. There's just got to be something more than a shag there, is all.

By: bassringer

bassringer — Sat, 16 Aug 2008 18:12:00 +0000

For the record, I fall into category #2: I don’t enjoy giving head, but I do love making my boyfriend feel that good (plus I love receiving and fair’s fair) and I certainly fantasize about it plenty. A big part of my aversion is that I simply don’t like to jack my jaw wide open. Even with kissing, this becomes apparent (and my face gets pretty slobbery as a result). Previous boyfriends (the whole whopping two of them with whom I was that physical) have voiced complaints about my blowjob reluctance – not rudely, I don’t think, especially for young guys – but I never let myself feel guilty about my comfort zones. Now that I’m a bit older and more mature, and am in a more mature relationship with a more mature man, I’m in a bit more of an everything-for-him mindset.

My own experience aside, I’ve read in a few places about how strange it is that North Americans seem to give head out like candy; while over in Europe, people will have lots of casual sex, sure, but you don’t go down on someone unless you’re married.

By: griffin

griffin — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 19:23:00 +0000

Totally agree. The act is a result of the adoration, not the other way around.

By: Ellie

Ellie — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 18:46:00 +0000

This post is right-on. I feel the same way about cocks in my mouth and I usually only want to do it under the best circumstances with someone I *adore*.

By: C.J. Strata

C.J. Strata — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 17:31:00 +0000

Disclaimer: Having never actually been with a woman before, there is a high possibility my stance is askew. I speak solely on what I have seen and what I have cybered. =P

Generally speaking, I am a submissive lover. Not in the ball gags, bondage, pleasure-from-pain kind of way, but in that I take a certain satisfaction from being commanded or controlled in the bedroom. More than that, however, I just like to please people. I've always been a live-for-others fellow, so I'm usually more than happy to do whatever I can to please a partner (within a few fetish guidelines). This can actually lead to some awkward moments, where I can actually feel uncomfortable receiving attention from others, because I feel like I'm not doing what I'm supposed to...but that's neither here nor there.

My attractions are admittedly slanted. I like male parts, and would have no problem going down on a guy. But I'm not all that attracted to the actual male form. And vice-versa, I'm really attracted to the female form, but I'm not all that interested in the vagina (not repulsed; just not aroused). But like Natt above, I'd still do it if I liked the woman.

Oral by its nature is an act of service, so expecting it kind of dulls down its significance, if you ask me. That goes for both sexes.

By: nattnightly

nattnightly — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 16:23:00 +0000

I’m goign to have to say, I agree. Although in my case it’s women. Casual fucking I’m fine with, but going down on someone… I have to really like you to do that. Not because I don’t enjoy it (in fact it’s one of my favorite things to do) but because it’s deeply intimate for me, and it’s completely about the other person and what I can give them and how we relate in that moment.