Comments on: A 2009 Wish for Smut Writers

By: Mollena

Mollena — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 22:09:26 +0000

Greetings!
I recently recounted an affair where the condom issue played a pivotal role in our first interaction…

http://www.mollena.com/2009/01/origins-part-ii-caught/

And I agree. When I write about fucking, if I’m writing about someone with whom I am not fluid bonded and a condom is used, I include it. I hew closely to my best recollection of any event i recount, and therefore I consider that to be critical.
Thank you for bringing up this critical issue!!

xoxo

~Mollena

Mollena’s last blog post..HNT

By: Old Scrote

Old Scrote — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 18:19:44 +0000

I am beyond the stage where I need to worry about condoms, thank goodness. But I still relish Zsa Zsa Gabor’s reply when asked what she thought about the condom: “Depends what’s in it for me, darling.”

By: the sayer

the sayer — Wed, 28 Jan 2009 19:47:49 +0000

It is interesting what you have written. I guess sometimes we write with the idea that we know well who the person in our stories. I can see them sometimes when I write who they are , what looks the toss back to me. But in random just happening right fucking now sex, ya, I think it is an appropriate inclusion in play. I like you, enjoy them, they me feel, if not safe, at least a few things less to worry about. I did a story on anonymous sex that centered around the condom, she was told to go and buy one, carry it around with her for the whole week prior to the meeting, feeling it in her pocket, seeing it in her purse, touching it..and smiling about what we to come.. and then the day of, that condom, was placed on the small of her back as she waited, head down on the bed, between her arms and legs spread sturdily in splendid anticipation. Condoms.. are good.. the sayer’s last blog post..What Is Female Desire?

By: Xenaclone

Xenaclone — Wed, 28 Jan 2009 13:30:32 +0000

Michelle – yes. You can still get all sorts of nasties from giving a BJ. Even AIDS. No latex = no loving. [http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/resources/qa/qa19.htm].

Smut & stuff – WORD. Sadly it seems that most of the folk who are pro-life are also anti-condom. I wonder which they think is worse; having an abortion or using condoms. Because one way of bringing the abortion stats down would be to insist on condom use outside a committed, monogamous relationship.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 20:41:57 +0000

So as a random question from someone who is just starting into sex… is it expected to use a condom for giving a blowjob? I don’t know why I’m asking this on the internet, but as Google brought me to your guide, I was curious.
Thanks!

By: Shay

Shay — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 05:28:59 +0000

I recently read a paper that found that people who don't think they are going to have sex are actually more likely to have unprotected sex (I guess because they aren't prepared and then are too excited that they are actually getting laid to think about protection). It's pretty sad, but it could be a globally lower self-esteem (in terms of not thinking you're gonna get laid) that's contributing to people not using their brains and not keeping protection around JUST IN CASE! Shay’s last blog post..Cockblogging Wednesday 132

By: badinfluencegirl

badinfluencegirl — Sun, 04 Jan 2009 21:59:30 +0000

i had been meaning to change my sidebar text for ages, thanks for inspiring me to ACTUALLY do it. badinfluencegirl’s last blog post..self-esteem

By: Diva

Diva — Sun, 04 Jan 2009 21:29:38 +0000

Another awesome post! Thank you.

You already know my questioning of what exactly does “sex positive” mean and the use of it in this community. I have the same issues as you with people who hold themselves out as sex positive but then do not practice safe sex.

I won’t even go into the issue of the ones who mislead their partners into thinking they are the only one that they do not use a condom with. In the end it is up to each individual to know and understand the risks involved when they choose not to use a condom but like you I think it would be a good to see the use of them in more posts.

By: Sylvanus

Sylvanus — Sun, 04 Jan 2009 20:57:57 +0000

Just to add, when Mina and I role-played with her as a whore, we even had a condom in the scene. She went over and got one and I had to put it on. I agree, no LIKES condoms, but they don't have to be such a disaster, either. And they can fit in to a lot of fun play. Sylvanus’s last blog post..Resolutions (Sylvanus)

By: kateanon

kateanon — Sun, 04 Jan 2009 20:57:50 +0000

*Applause*