I’ve been remiss in mentioning a book the publishers Rodale sent to me at the end of the summer. I usually turn down offers of free products because I hate feeling obligated when it comes to writing reviews afterward, but when the rep told me what Debby Herbenick’s book, Because it Feels Good: A Woman’s [...]
THIS POSTING’S DEDICATED TO ANYONE WHO THINKS THEY’RE STUCK BEING FAT. It’s not all hand-holding and gentle. I cut through the bullshit. You want your reality check? Start here. Oh, and I’m not selling a fuckin’ thing. I’m just trying to help you do what I’ve done, because it’s WORTH it.
I get a lot of [...]
By A Scribe Called Steff
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Also posted in Best of Steff, Hygiene & Health, Specifically Steff, censorship, fitness, weight loss
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Tagged becoming thin, changing yourself, choices, health, how to lose weight, metabolism, the secret to weight loss, weight loss
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I had a private chat with chick on Twitter recently, and we spoke of men who’ve made rather over-the-top “requests” before first meetings with us.
Well, with her. I’ve never actually followed through with plans with any of those guys. But that’s how I roll. My Spidey senses are on the job 24/7.
I’ve been “dating” for [...]
By A Scribe Called Steff
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Also posted in Dating, General, Lifestyle, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Psychology & Moods, Sex, Specifically Steff
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Tagged Dating, demands, fear, fetishes, fuck buddies, fwb, instinct, play, safety, Sex, strictly sex
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It’s the weeks where we feel beaten down before Monday begins that are the hardest to face, eh?
This morning’s rife with the turmoil of a good Pacific storm. A lot of wind and rain. As is usually the case, a good windstorm means a blue sky’s on its heels. I literally see both from my [...]
By A Scribe Called Steff
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Also posted in Dating, Dimestore Philosophy, General, Journalling, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Sex, Specifically Steff
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Tagged mondays, perspective, philosophy, spring, struggle, weather
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I began this series last month, here’s part one. It’s pretty unstructured, but the early part of the series is focusing on the head game, because without the head game down, you’ll have no success. It’s all in the head game.
The most important thing you need to do if you want to effect serious change [...]
By A Scribe Called Steff
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Also posted in Best of Steff, General, How To Guides, Hygiene & Health, Lifestyle, Loving and Knowing Yourself, Self-Love & Self-Esteem, Specifically Steff, weight loss
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Tagged Advice, being better, changing your life, changing yourself, depression, improving yourself, Lifestyle, smutwear, steff is dead long live steff, struggle to change, weight loss
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Two piles of “fat” clothes sit in garbage bags by my front door, waiting to get donated, like the two bags I ditched last week. It’s the end of an era.
I’ve been buying clothes lately, the last two weeks. It’s been emotional hell. I’m about a size 15 now (down from 22/24), and that makes [...]
By A Scribe Called Steff
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Also posted in Hygiene & Health, Lifestyle, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Self-Love & Self-Esteem, weight loss
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Tagged body image, fat girl no more, Fat Girl No More: How I Lost 50 Pounds, improving yourself, kicking ass and taking names, overcoming weight problems, pride, self-esteem, success, weight loss
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I really need to catch up on some postings, but, honestly, I’ve been killing myself getting my house organized after weeks of chaos. I’m happy to announce that, by nightfall, my home will finally be a home again. About time.
At Christmastime I normally try to do really unique or different gifts. I’ll do my photography, [...]
PLEASE READ THE COMMENT DISCUSSION ON THIS POSTING, SINCE THERE ARE VALID CONCERNS BEFORE FOLLOWING ANYTHING IN THIS POSTING. Let me be perfectly clear: This is NOT a posting about how to heal back pain. This remedy is for MY back pain, conjured after a few hours of one-on-one time with a physiotherapist who took [...]
By A Scribe Called Steff
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Also posted in How To Guides, Hygiene & Health, Orgasm Trouble, Specifically Steff
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Tagged back pain, fitness, health, how to do kegels, how to strengthen low back, kegels, the right way, weightloss
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So, a Twitterer made the comment that, with the holidays almost here, the annual malaise of reflection and regret would soon be upon him. And I thought, “Wow, this is gonna be the first time ever I sit down at the end of a year and go, “Holy fuck. I accomplished THAT?””
16 months ago, I [...]
By A Scribe Called Steff
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Also posted in How To Guides, Hygiene & Health, Journalling, Lifestyle, Loving and Knowing Yourself, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Self-Love & Self-Esteem, Specifically Steff
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Tagged Advice, being better, changing your life, changing yourself, depression, improving yourself, Lifestyle, smutwear, steff is dead long live steff, struggle to change, weight loss
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Hello, world!
I’m still in a mad spiral as I sort out everything to do with my loan, and then I can slowly segue back to mostly-broke time-on-her-hands Steff that brings you tons to read. It’s been WEEKS since I’ve been able to sit at my writing desk to write for you, but I think the [...]
Vancouver’s caught in a beautiful sexy beast of a heatwave that has me dreading cyclerides to work… but loving it at the same time.
GayBoy taught me this trick a year or two on a barbecue of a day, and it’s awesome to use at times.
Just put 5-6 inches of cooold water in the bathtub and [...]
There’s a scene in The Tailor of Panama in which Pierce Brosnan, as Andy Osnard, a British spy reassigned to Panama, is shown his new office for the first time by his hot but too tense new colleague.
He wanders to a safe in the wall above his new desk and starts trying to crack the [...]
By A Scribe Called Steff
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Also posted in Best of Steff, Hygiene & Health, Loving and Knowing Yourself, Masturbation, Orgasm Trouble, Sex Toys & Aids, Women's Department, dysfunction
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Tagged benefits of masturbation, dildos, sextoys are more than toys, vaginal health, vibrators, why you should masturbate
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Oh, dear, oh, dear. Ohh. Sigh.
So here’s a letter I received today–
We’ve been married 25 years, intercourse has always been great. Hubby has never learned to be good with his hands but orally he’s a dunce. I gave up many years ago. I have dropped 60 lbs and my libido went [...]
Yeah, I like my rock’n’roll and I can get dirty with the best of them, but I love my George Michael, and always have. Heck, my first masturbation was inspired by George more than two decades ago.
I felt like I was 13 again last week as I waited for the concert to begin, and was [...]
By A Scribe Called Steff
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Also posted in Best of Steff, Journalling, Loving and Knowing Yourself, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Self-Love & Self-Esteem, Sex, weight loss
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Tagged clothes shopping, george michael, insecurities, overcoming sexual hangups, retaining water, weight loss
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[Steff note: This posting began as an attempt for me to try and explain a little why women should act out loud when they're masturbating in the privacy of home -- thrusting, grabbing at their breasts and ass, grunting, whatever it takes... but it got a lot deeper and a lot bigger than just a [...]
By A Scribe Called Steff
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Also posted in Best of Steff, Foreplay & Arousing, Masturbation, Modern Feminism, Orgasm Trouble, Women's Department
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Tagged being vocal during sex, how to masturbate better, jilling, techniques for female masturbation, techniques for women, using masturbation to improve sex
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some days are clean slates, just waiting for some input, a spark, a suggestion. some days are lazy days of slack, and on such a day, it’s nice to receive a great email from a snazzy reader, especially when it’s something worth spending a little time writing on. if you have something you think i [...]
By A Scribe Called Steff
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Also posted in Best of Steff, Foreplay & Arousing, Gay or Straight?, How To Guides, Men's Department, Oral Sex, Questions From Readers, Sex, Women's Department
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Tagged cunnilingus, getting her off, more than an hour, Oral Sex, taunting, teasing
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Most places you look and read will have you believe that everyone who’s single dates all the time. Really? My friends and I have missed that memo.
So it’s easy to feel like you’re a loser when you’re the one who’s totally current on what’s happening on all your favourite tv shows, since you’re the one [...]
Every now and then male-female relations seem like a bad day at the UN. Understanding the issues is imperative, but no one speaks the same language.
John Gray got rich off the chaos that exists in that weird little world of relationships, by telling us that men were from Mars, and women from Venus. It’s true. [...]
By A Scribe Called Steff
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Also posted in Loving and Knowing Yourself, Masturbation, Modern Feminism, Sex, Uncategorized, Women's Department, feminism, keeping it real
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Tagged comfort, hang-ups, learning about yourself, Masturbation, self-love, sexual skill, touching yourself, who masturbates, why you should masturbate
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A couple weeks ago, I started back on the birth control pill after five or six years off of it. There’ve been times when I’ve been on the pill, but I’ve never taken it for extended periods. That’s just because I’m the kind of person who’s hesitant to get into chemicals of any kind. (Herbs, [...]
Okay, so supposedly you’re all here ‘cos this girl knows her shit, right?
I gotta tell you, though, I’m stumped. Seems a reader who simply goes by “Regular” wants to know how a man can then get his woman all riled in response to the posting below this one, A Few Ways To Get Your Man [...]
Are you, like me, a fan of light bondage, but not into the sorts of high-end bondage bed sets that cost an arm and a leg? Do you lack an old-fashioned headboard to bind your lover to? Have no fear. Here’s a two-dollar bondage hijinks tip from yours truly.
Visit your local dollar store and pick [...]
