Category Archives: Dating

Sep
09
2009

Dating Options 101: Whatchagot

I had too much wine on Saturday night, wrote this. Didn’t publish it for fear I might’ve said too much. In vino veritas and all. So here’s the version you see. :)
I’m being antisocial. Again. I’m at that point where people are draining me, so I know I need my time to myself.
Some guy’s aggressively [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Humour, Journalling, Romance, Specifically Steff | Tagged , , , , , , , | Comments (2)
Sep
07
2009

When We Were Kids: Growing Up John Hughes

I’ve been foiled by the evil estrogenies on my long weekend Monday, and my monthly female visitor is making its presence known. Happily, I’m now medicated.
More happily, TiVo ate some Breakfast Club and is serving it up fresh for me this morning — one of those few movies I can recite more than half. It’s [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Dimestore Philosophy, Education, General, Hollywood, Humour, Life 101, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Society, Specifically Steff | Comments (1)
Jul
23
2009

Writing: The Art of Digging In?

I fall out of love with writing.
It’s a love/hate relationship. I can’t live without it. I wish I could.
It’s a near-pathological need to dig, writing. For some of us. For me. Dig, dig, dig. I feel like I’m taking a stab at digging my way to China in my back yard. I’ll never finish. I’ll [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Best of Steff, Dimestore Philosophy, Journalling, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Psychology & Moods, Sex, Specifically Steff, keeping it real, writing | Tagged , , , | Comments (1)
Jun
04
2009

Opting Into Ignorance

Freedom of education? Not on my tax dollar, bub.
The province of Alberta, here in Canada, has opted to make matters of sex, sexual orientation,* and religion OPTIONAL for their students. Parents can yank their kids out of school when they disagree with the premise at hand. [Story here.]
Religion? Okay. Fine. I’ll give you that. Make [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in AIDS & STDs, Education, Gay or Straight?, Laws, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Sex, Society, Steff Rants, Viginity, casual sex, censorship | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , | Comments (4)
May
30
2009

Love Me or Leave Me

“Makes me think of the ideal woman: smart like an academic, jokes like a buddy, sex like a whore, makes chicken pot pie like Paula Deen.” @neilochka
There you have it. I am the ideal. Almost. I’m more a brazen hussy than I am whorey. Can’t help it, I was brought up well. Hussy’s as far [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in General, Journalling, Loving and Knowing Yourself, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Self-Love & Self-Esteem, keeping it real | Tagged , , , , | Comments (3)
May
29
2009

Archie and Veronica? Let the Stereotypes Perpetuate

Reinforcing the reality that more than half of all marriages embarked upon will end in catastrophic divorce, the news has come out that Archie has popped the big question to Veronica.
Are they getting married? Well, that will all depend. This could be (and likely is) all just a big ploy to get people reinterested in [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Current Events, General, Hollywood, Modern Feminism, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Society | Tagged , , , | Comments (4)
Apr
20
2009

Of Walls, Waits, and Wistfulness

It was a warm and spring-like evening when our heroine sat tapping away at her keyboard, clad in unsightly short shorts and a 15-year-old concert t-shirt that never would live to see the streets again.
Tom Waits wailed in his gravelly splendour as a breeze softly batted the bamboo blinds. She peered over the rim of [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Lust & Longing, Romance, Sex, Specifically Steff, Twitter | Tagged , , , , , | Comments (3)
Apr
17
2009

Why I Don’t Follow You On Twitter

I tweet incessantly on Twitter. Most of us know this by now.
I also, inexplicably, will hit 1,300 followers probably before the weekend is through. I follow little over 300, quite a few of whom don’t follow me. Whatever.
So why don’t I follow you? Well, it’s not about you, is it? It’s about me getting the [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Best of Steff, Etiquette, General, Journalling, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Sex, Society, Specifically Steff | Tagged , , , | Comments (12)
Apr
02
2009

The Trouble With Writing

I have this longstanding love/hate relationship with writing.
I love the articulation of thought, the solving of ideas, the expressing of inner qualities.
The trouble with readers is, what they see is what they get.
You people, you read my blog and you somehow think what I put up here is some finite guide to the divinity of [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Best of Steff, Communication, General, Journalling, Lifestyle, Society, Specifically Steff | Tagged , , , , , , | Comments (3)
Mar
31
2009

The Daunting Power of Love

Our young protagonist, involved in an unlikely affair with a considerably older woman, one that all outsiders would state an “obvious fail”, just shrugs at his dubious confronters and says, “I know what I’m doing. I’ll be all right.”
And me, there on my sofa, I scoff and chuckle, “Oh, sure you will.”
Because I know. I [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Lust & Longing, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Sex, Society, Specifically Steff | Tagged , , , , , , , , | Comments (3)
Mar
30
2009

Tube or Not Tube, That is the Question

It’s Monday and my weekend has vanished. My place isn’t a complete disaster, but I won’t be inviting any company over just yet.
I’m all right with that, though, because I enjoyed my downtime. I caught up on some TiVo and accomplished a few little things. Most importantly, I met cool new people and had some [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Sex, Society, Specifically Steff | Tagged , , , , , | Comments (1)
Mar
27
2009

In Vino Veritas: Turning Points

[One of those into-and-almost-done-a-bottle-of-wine postings. Bear with me here.]
So, Mission: Get a Life is underway.
Making friends, for me? Not very hard. Not if I am myself. If I’m relaxed, content, sociable, people warm to me quickly and easily. And why not? I’m a good person. Better yet, I’m funny. I even make the aesthete’s basic [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Current Events, Dimestore Philosophy, Humour, Journalling, Lifestyle | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | Comments (1)
Mar
23
2009

When Waiting Can Be Worth It

The trouble with being a fast-food nation is that it’s become the norm to want what you want the way you want it, when you want it.
We’re led to believe that every single day is so important — which is why we need the iPhone, the laptop, the netbook, the fast car, the microwave — [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Psychology & Moods, Society, Specifically Steff | Tagged , , , , , , | Comments (1)
Mar
15
2009

Doctor, Doctor, Gimme the News

Sex, even mere hanky-panky, is a workout.
All that squirming and groping and thrusting makes your whole body (if you’re doing it right) tense and flex. Maybe even throb a little.
Injuries can happen in sex. Hell, people die shagging when their hearts give out. From orgasm to aneurysm, just like that.

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Being single, How To Guides, Hygiene & Health, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Sex, Specifically Steff | Tagged , , , , , , | Comments (1)
Mar
14
2009

My Own Private Dichotomy

Fear is not my friend. I don’t care what the bookstore’s self-help section says.
Fear is a bitch. A mean, driven bitch.
I am not a fan of fear.
I bought that book. Twice. Feel The Fear and Do It Anyways. Sometimes I do it anyways. But I always feel the fear. Ever-present, always-niggling fear.
Fortunately I know that [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Being single, Dimestore Philosophy, Journalling, Loving and Knowing Yourself, Modern Feminism, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Self-Love & Self-Esteem, Sex, Specifically Steff, weight loss | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , | Comments (2)
Mar
12
2009

Arousing — Er, Awaking the Beast

I’m at my breaking point, I suspect. My resolve isn’t very resolved anymore.
I have this incredibly awesome gift most people would KILL for. When I’m not sexually involved, I can flip my libido off like a lightswitch. It’s why I’m so content to not date. Because dating just toys with my resolve. Once I’m on [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Being single, Foreplay & Arousing, Humour, Hygiene & Health, Romance, Sex, Specifically Steff | Tagged , , , , , , , , | Comments (4)
Mar
09
2009

The Unpredictability of the Wildcard

It’s a full moon tonight and I had a bit of a full moon today.
A face from the past came ’round. Leaves me with some heavy thinking to do. When the past comes back, it’s for one of two reasons. To either teach you not to go there. Or to prompt you to go there.
I [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Being single, Dimestore Philosophy, Psychology & Moods, Romance, Specifically Steff | Tagged , , , , , , | Comments (4)
Mar
03
2009

Are You Askin’ Or Tellin’?

I had a private chat with chick on Twitter recently, and we spoke of men who’ve made rather over-the-top “requests” before first meetings with us.
Well, with her. I’ve never actually followed through with plans with any of those guys. But that’s how I roll. My Spidey senses are on the job 24/7.
I’ve been “dating” for [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, General, Lifestyle, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Psychology & Moods, Sex, Specifically Steff | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , | Comments (3)
Mar
02
2009

In The Wake of the Storm: Thoughts on Life

It’s the weeks where we feel beaten down before Monday begins that are the hardest to face, eh?
This morning’s rife with the turmoil of a good Pacific storm. A lot of wind and rain. As is usually the case, a good windstorm means a blue sky’s on its heels. I literally see both from my [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, Dimestore Philosophy, General, Journalling, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Sex, Specifically Steff | Tagged , , , , , | Comments (0)
Feb
20
2009

In Vino Veritas: Of Bananas And Hotties

I’m drunkish. I feel obligated to write for you. But you’ll take obligated, won’t you? Yeah, that’s human nature.
Stringing thoughts together might be a challenge. But. It’s not like I get graded on this, right?
It’s been a weird day. I’ll get into that in a minute, but you need the prelude first.
I was up at [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Best of Steff, Humour, Journalling, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Sex, Specifically Steff, weight loss | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | Comments (5)
Feb
14
2009

Woe is You? Oh, ho! Woe is US!

I’m giving a few people a stay of execution on Twitter.
Soon, the unfollows will commence, as I seek to find new folks to fill my ADHD hours with.
Who’s in danger of getting the axe? Anyone who keeps whining.
See, I’ll bitch. Bitching’s good. I encourage rants and bitching. I even encourage being argumentative and incendiary. (Obviously. [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, Best of Steff, Dimestore Philosophy, Ethics, General, Humour, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Society, Steff Rants, Twitter | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , | Comments (4)
Feb
10
2009

The Annual Anti-Valentine’s Posting: 2009 Edition

Every year, without fail, I’m forced to write yet another posting saying pretty much all the same things. Like, if you can’t be romantic the rest of the year, you don’t deserve a lover. If you can’t remember to live with passion when it’s not February 14th, then you’re wasting oxygen.

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Consumerism, Humour, Lifestyle, Lust & Longing, Marriage & Other Commitments, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Sex, Society, Steff Rants | Tagged , , , , , , | Comments (9)