Category Archives: Foreplay & Arousing

Mar
12
2009

Arousing — Er, Awaking the Beast

I’m at my breaking point, I suspect. My resolve isn’t very resolved anymore.
I have this incredibly awesome gift most people would KILL for. When I’m not sexually involved, I can flip my libido off like a lightswitch. It’s why I’m so content to not date. Because dating just toys with my resolve. Once I’m on [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Being single, Dating, Humour, Hygiene & Health, Romance, Sex, Specifically Steff | Tagged , , , , , , , , | Comments (4)
Oct
17
2008

Of Rainy Days, Write Nights, And Kissing Boys

Oh! The rain is pounding the streets as car tires slap-slap-slap their way over the busy streets near my home. I’ve hit bottom on my coffee mug and should be zapping to the door, but first need to get the funk out with a long hot shower.
I’m bussing in the downpour. Tonight I’ll come home [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Dating, General, Journalling, PMS, Specifically Steff | Tagged , , , , , , | Comments (0)
Sep
22
2008

Sex-Toy Review: The Stubby G!

Let’s talk sex toys today. Specifically, I’ll be reviewing The Stubby G.
First, I want to explain how a few things work for all y’all, since I know sex-blog readers see these reviews all the time, and, personally, I see that 95% of them are positive, so I could understand how review-readers might skeptically dismiss us [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Hygiene & Health, Masturbation, Sex, Sex Toy Reviews, Sex Toys & Aids, Women's Department | Tagged , , , , , , , | Comments (2)
Sep
10
2008

When We Were Kids: Thoughts on BDSM

Experts will tell you that who we are in life is defined by the age of seven. Our ethics, our play, our work habits, it’s all laid out as part of who we are, and will continue to be, by seven.
There are those who’ve taken this a step further and will tell you also that [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Best of Steff, Dating, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Psychology & Moods, Sex, Society | Tagged , , , , , | Comments (9)
Sep
08
2008

Sex Toy Review: "The Lovely (and lamely-named) Rose"

I’m sorry, but I often really, really hate the name of sex toys. And this is no exception.
From Emma’s Passion Garden comes the Dual Rose aka “The Lovely Rose.” Jesus, people. Fire the marketing department, because this toy deserves so much better. Really.
Nonetheless, when a guy was recently given the choice of what toy to [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Hygiene & Health, Masturbation, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Sex Toy Reviews, Sex Toys & Aids, Women's Department | Tagged , , , , , | Comments (5)
Aug
17
2008

Sex & Food: Together Again?

I’m a foodie. Yes, I am.
And I got to tell ya, he prospect of regular sex has begun to loom, and this excites me considerably. Sets me all a-flutter, truth be told. But, you know, for all those strenuous hours of fun that potentially loom, one requires fuel. Enter food.
So I’m not sure what excites [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Best of Steff, Dating, Food & Recipes, Journalling, Lust & Longing, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Sex, Specifically Steff | Tagged , , , , , , , | Comments (6)
Aug
15
2008

A Frank Posting about Giving Head

Hey, wow! Just noticed as I was adding the comments to my archive postings on how to give GREAT head [starts here] that it was three years ago today I published that posting that defined this blog. Aww! Let’s hear it for nostalgia.
So, it’s fitting then, we should have a little chat about blowjobs today. [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Best of Steff, Dating, Etiquette, Men's Department, Modern Feminism, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Oral Sex, Specifically Steff, casual sex | Tagged , , , , , , | Comments (6)
Jul
29
2008

Sextoy Review! The GIGI "Pleasure Object" by LELO

My good friends at VibeReview sent me some pretty toys earlier this month, and the one I couldn’t wait to get playing with first was this beautiful toy pictured here.
The Gigi Pleasure Object could also have another name: “Your New Best Friend.”
This thing is to sex toys what the iPOD is to music. No, really.
Sure, [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Best of Steff, Masturbation, Sex Toy Reviews, Sex Toys & Aids, sugasm | Tagged , , , , , , , , | Comments (5)
Jul
04
2008

On Female Masturbation, Faking Orgasms, & The Psychology of Sex

[Steff note: This posting began as an attempt for me to try and explain a little why women should act out loud when they're masturbating in the privacy of home -- thrusting, grabbing at their breasts and ass, grunting, whatever it takes... but it got a lot deeper and a lot bigger than just a [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, Best of Steff, Masturbation, Modern Feminism, Orgasm Trouble, Women's Department | Tagged , , , , , | Comments (4)
Jun
19
2008

On Oral, A Reader Asks: Can I Really Tease Her For More Than An Hour?

some days are clean slates, just waiting for some input, a spark, a suggestion. some days are lazy days of slack, and on such a day, it’s nice to receive a great email from a snazzy reader, especially when it’s something worth spending a little time writing on. if you have something you think i [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, Best of Steff, Gay or Straight?, How To Guides, Men's Department, Oral Sex, Questions From Readers, Sex, Women's Department | Tagged , , , , , | Comments (5)
Oct
19
2005

Decoding Feminine Desire: Yeah, Right

Okay, so supposedly you’re all here ‘cos this girl knows her shit, right?
I gotta tell you, though, I’m stumped. Seems a reader who simply goes by “Regular” wants to know how a man can then get his woman all riled in response to the posting below this one, A Few Ways To Get Your Man [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, Dating, Lust & Longing, Men's Department, Questions From Readers, Romance, Sex | Tagged , | Comments (15)
Oct
18
2005

A few ways to get your man rock hard

Send him a very, very dirty note. He must receive the note when he’s not in your presence and can’t be for several hours. If you know his company isn’t too strict on emails received at the office, or he has a public email client like gmail or hotmail, then send him an email. If [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Dating, Romance, Sex | Tagged , | Comments (20)