Category Archives: General

Jan
07
2010

Bittersweet Winter Mornings & Their Longings

A little after waking, a furiously beautiful sunrise lit my little part of the world up. Red, red, red, as far as the eye could see. Fire on the horizon, exploding across the cottony clouds that spread west over the Pacific.
Some shivers, some cold toes, but it was worth heading out to stand on my [...]

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Dec
16
2009

Things to Remember This Christmas

Since 1998, I’ve had every kind of Christmas imaginable. Lonely, magnificent, rich, broke, injured, healthy, in love, out of love. Had ‘em all.
I was raised to believe in the magic of Christmas. We’d have a houseful of people singing carols, Dad would make his famous cardiac eggnog, the house was full of decorations and laughter, [...]

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Sep
26
2009

Getting Philosophical as a Birthday Looms

“I commented to a friend once that I’d love to have the trappings of success, but could never live in the trap of success.”

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Dimestore Philosophy, Journalling, Life 101, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Psychology & Moods, Society, Specifically Steff, existentialism, keeping it real, writing | Tagged , , , , , , , | Comments (1)
Sep
17
2009

Filler

We use words like “empty” and “full” to judge qualities of life –
“Oh, he’s amazing, he leads such a full life!”
“Wow. I feel so sorry for her when she leaves to go home, she looks so sad, like her night and life are so empty.”
…But how much of those “full” lives is filler? And how [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Being me, Dimestore Philosophy, Life 101, Lifestyle, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Society, keeping it real | Tagged , , , , , , | Comments (0)
Sep
07
2009

When We Were Kids: Growing Up John Hughes

I’ve been foiled by the evil estrogenies on my long weekend Monday, and my monthly female visitor is making its presence known. Happily, I’m now medicated.
More happily, TiVo ate some Breakfast Club and is serving it up fresh for me this morning — one of those few movies I can recite more than half. It’s [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Dating, Dimestore Philosophy, Education, Hollywood, Humour, Life 101, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Society, Specifically Steff | Comments (1)
Aug
24
2009

Yet Another Reason You Should Buy a Vibrator

I don’t have much of a garden — three tomato plants and four basils — but I’m deeply attached to the bounty and willing to put in the work.
Basil, well, that’s easy enough. Wait until June, plant, water often, eat often, be happy.
Tomatoes? Good god. Apparently they need pollinators! One thing we apartment-dwellers on the [...]

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Aug
13
2009

Citizen Steff Talks About Paint

I think this is an important topic more people should speak up about, because I’m tired of seeing my alleyways filling with furniture people could’ve reinvented with five bucks and a little imagination.
For about $110, I’m completely reinventing my living area. That includes building a new pantry for storage with MDF shelving, a gallon of [...]

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Jul
20
2009

Everything In Its Place

I sometimes forget I’m a writer. I get out of practice, and then it doesn’t occur to me that, to be true to who I am on any given day,  I should be playing with a few words. Sometimes I forget that wrestling hands-on with my experiences and my past is what makes me the [...]

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Jul
05
2009

Why I (Love to) Hate Facebook

There I am, second-last day of vacation, scouring my deck and cleaning my deck chairs. I bought the chairs about eight years ago now. As I scoured them down, a flood of old memories came back — drinks drunk as planes soared in across the southern horizon, headed for the airport’s runways, conversations nattered until [...]

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Jul
02
2009

What I Learned on My Summer Vacation

Sometimes I just post a smattering of thoughts. This is such a time.
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Time evaporates. Make use of what you have.
It’s a big world out there. Get lost in it sometimes.
When I grow up, I want to be carefree. And aware. Always.
Alone is good, but so are people. When meeting them, it’s easier to find flaws [...]

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May
30
2009

Love Me or Leave Me

“Makes me think of the ideal woman: smart like an academic, jokes like a buddy, sex like a whore, makes chicken pot pie like Paula Deen.” @neilochka
There you have it. I am the ideal. Almost. I’m more a brazen hussy than I am whorey. Can’t help it, I was brought up well. Hussy’s as far [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Dating, Journalling, Loving and Knowing Yourself, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Self-Love & Self-Esteem, keeping it real | Tagged , , , , | Comments (3)
May
29
2009

Archie and Veronica? Let the Stereotypes Perpetuate

Reinforcing the reality that more than half of all marriages embarked upon will end in catastrophic divorce, the news has come out that Archie has popped the big question to Veronica.
Are they getting married? Well, that will all depend. This could be (and likely is) all just a big ploy to get people reinterested in [...]

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May
23
2009

Hanging Up on Hang-ups

Funny how we get so hung up on our hang-ups we sometimes don’t even notice when they’ve disappeared.*
I was fucking floored Thursday night when I realized the varicose veins I’d been loathing for the last year had suddenly vanished in the last couple months, thanks to my awesome new fitness regime. Poof, gone.
Ironically, I’d already [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Best of Steff, Dimestore Philosophy, Hygiene & Health, Journalling, Loving and Knowing Yourself, Psychology & Moods, Self-Love & Self-Esteem, Specifically Steff, fitness, weight loss | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | Comments (2)
Apr
24
2009

RANT: You Think You’re A Feminist?

I can’t stand elitism. I can’t stand the “we’re better than you” mentality. And I sure as fuck can’t stand when someone’s got to get their hate on just to get ahead.
A particular blog post from someone in the sex blogging community is ridiculously sexist and moronic in its simplicity, in my opinion. Because I [...]

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Apr
17
2009

Why I Don’t Follow You On Twitter

I tweet incessantly on Twitter. Most of us know this by now.
I also, inexplicably, will hit 1,300 followers probably before the weekend is through. I follow little over 300, quite a few of whom don’t follow me. Whatever.
So why don’t I follow you? Well, it’s not about you, is it? It’s about me getting the [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Best of Steff, Dating, Etiquette, Journalling, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Sex, Society, Specifically Steff | Tagged , , , | Comments (12)
Apr
06
2009

Occam’s Razor

Denis Leary was on Letterman the other night and was joking that he’d gone through five marriage counsellors that “sucked” before he found the sixth, who was awesome, but then he said that once he accepted he was wrong, everything went gr-r-r-reat with counselling.
I had to laugh.
I’ve been having the same epiphany of late.
For five [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Dimestore Philosophy, Hygiene & Health, Journalling, Lifestyle, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Specifically Steff, fitness | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , | Comments (4)
Apr
02
2009

The Trouble With Writing

I have this longstanding love/hate relationship with writing.
I love the articulation of thought, the solving of ideas, the expressing of inner qualities.
The trouble with readers is, what they see is what they get.
You people, you read my blog and you somehow think what I put up here is some finite guide to the divinity of [...]

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Mar
03
2009

Are You Askin’ Or Tellin’?

I had a private chat with chick on Twitter recently, and we spoke of men who’ve made rather over-the-top “requests” before first meetings with us.
Well, with her. I’ve never actually followed through with plans with any of those guys. But that’s how I roll. My Spidey senses are on the job 24/7.
I’ve been “dating” for [...]

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Mar
02
2009

In The Wake of the Storm: Thoughts on Life

It’s the weeks where we feel beaten down before Monday begins that are the hardest to face, eh?
This morning’s rife with the turmoil of a good Pacific storm. A lot of wind and rain. As is usually the case, a good windstorm means a blue sky’s on its heels. I literally see both from my [...]

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Feb
16
2009

a lament: to beg for a season’s end

a bath, a book, a glass of wine. a fine end to a mostly long day.
the book? elizabeth smart’s By Grand Central Station I Sat Down and Wept. poetric prose. love tryst. “homewrecking”, said moralistic critics of the time. swirling romance, says i. fitting for a tub.1940s classic lost for a couple of decades, then [...]

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Feb
14
2009

Woe is You? Oh, ho! Woe is US!

I’m giving a few people a stay of execution on Twitter.
Soon, the unfollows will commence, as I seek to find new folks to fill my ADHD hours with.
Who’s in danger of getting the axe? Anyone who keeps whining.
See, I’ll bitch. Bitching’s good. I encourage rants and bitching. I even encourage being argumentative and incendiary. (Obviously. [...]

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Jan
24
2009

Pride is Overrated: Of Muffins & Poisoning

There’s probably no greater equalizer of mankind than food poisoning. Everyone can remember That One Meal that left them a gut-churning shell of themselves for 24 to 48 hours.
I had my Lesson in Humility yesterday. I couldn’t even run up to the store for Pepto-Bismol because of the unpredictability of it all. I spent about [...]

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