Category Archives: Masturbation

Mar
16
2010

RetroSteff: Why 40% of Women Don’t Masturbate

When this blog first began, for its first year or so, it was all sex or relationships that I was writing about. Most of the time, anyhow, as I kept my “personal” writing on another blog. Somewhere along the way, I gave up separating the two.
But as I’m getting into writing my book, something’s got [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Lifestyle, Modern Feminism, Orgasm Trouble, Self-Love & Self-Esteem, Sex, Women's Department, feminism, keeping it real | Comments (0)
May
22
2009

Manufacturing Self

Should be rushing out the door, instead I found myself trying on a variety of clothes.
Tonight, the wardrobe-beefing-up continues with a visit to yet another couple department stores. Old Navy and its ilk can wait till the weekend sometime.
I’m still trying to figure out my new image, and new styles I can now wear that [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Self-Love & Self-Esteem, Specifically Steff, weight loss | Tagged , , , | Comments (1)
Sep
22
2008

Sex-Toy Review: The Stubby G!

Let’s talk sex toys today. Specifically, I’ll be reviewing The Stubby G.
First, I want to explain how a few things work for all y’all, since I know sex-blog readers see these reviews all the time, and, personally, I see that 95% of them are positive, so I could understand how review-readers might skeptically dismiss us [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Foreplay & Arousing, Hygiene & Health, Sex, Sex Toy Reviews, Sex Toys & Aids, Women's Department | Tagged , , , , , , , | Comments (2)
Sep
08
2008

Sex Toy Review: "The Lovely (and lamely-named) Rose"

I’m sorry, but I often really, really hate the name of sex toys. And this is no exception.
From Emma’s Passion Garden comes the Dual Rose aka “The Lovely Rose.” Jesus, people. Fire the marketing department, because this toy deserves so much better. Really.
Nonetheless, when a guy was recently given the choice of what toy to [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Foreplay & Arousing, Hygiene & Health, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Sex Toy Reviews, Sex Toys & Aids, Women's Department | Tagged , , , , , | Comments (5)
Aug
11
2008

Vaginas: Uptight, everything’s all right? Not so much.

There’s a scene in The Tailor of Panama in which Pierce Brosnan, as Andy Osnard, a British spy reassigned to Panama, is shown his new office for the first time by his hot but too tense new colleague.
He wanders to a safe in the wall above his new desk and starts trying to crack the [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, Best of Steff, Hygiene & Health, Loving and Knowing Yourself, Orgasm Trouble, Sex Toys & Aids, Women's Department, dysfunction | Tagged , , , , , | Comments (7)
Aug
06
2008

Holy Return of the Libido, Batman!

Sex. It’s been a while. Honestly? It’s been two years.
As I’ve written about at length, I went on anti-depressants the summer of ‘06, after birth control pills messed my body up something fierce, at the tail end of a relationship that turned to shit in record time, while getting laid off of multiple jobs in [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Best of Steff, Dating, General, Humour, Modern Feminism, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Specifically Steff, Steff Rants | Tagged , , , , , | Comments (6)
Jul
29
2008

Sextoy Review! The GIGI "Pleasure Object" by LELO

My good friends at VibeReview sent me some pretty toys earlier this month, and the one I couldn’t wait to get playing with first was this beautiful toy pictured here.
The Gigi Pleasure Object could also have another name: “Your New Best Friend.”
This thing is to sex toys what the iPOD is to music. No, really.
Sure, [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Best of Steff, Foreplay & Arousing, Sex Toy Reviews, Sex Toys & Aids, sugasm | Tagged , , , , , , , , | Comments (5)
Jul
11
2008

Christmas in July! Steff Gets a Big Box of Sex Toys!

Is there anything more fun than walking out a postal outlet knowing that, under your arms, is a big-ass box of sex toys, and no one there has a clue?
My local postal outlet’s in a 7-11. So there I am, walking out with a box of orgasms under my arm, and everyone else has got [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Journalling, Sex Toy Reviews | Tagged , | Comments (5)
Jul
04
2008

On Female Masturbation, Faking Orgasms, & The Psychology of Sex

[Steff note: This posting began as an attempt for me to try and explain a little why women should act out loud when they're masturbating in the privacy of home -- thrusting, grabbing at their breasts and ass, grunting, whatever it takes... but it got a lot deeper and a lot bigger than just a [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, Best of Steff, Foreplay & Arousing, Modern Feminism, Orgasm Trouble, Women's Department | Tagged , , , , , | Comments (4)
Jul
03
2008

All Wound Up and No One to Spring On

A storm is brewing. The air is thick, heavy, clinging,and almost chewy. Now and then a salt-laden breeze sweeps through my apartment, bringing a fragment of relief. And then it goes away, and all that’s left is this ominous forbearance of a change about to rain down on us, literally.
I love when a storm comes [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Being single, Best of Steff, Dating, Humour, Lust & Longing, Sex, Specifically Steff | Tagged , , , , , | Comments (4)
Jan
20
2006

Why 40% of Women Don’t Masturbate

Every now and then male-female relations seem like a bad day at the UN. Understanding the issues is imperative, but no one speaks the same language.
John Gray got rich off the chaos that exists in that weird little world of relationships, by telling us that men were from Mars, and women from Venus. It’s true. [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, Loving and Knowing Yourself, Modern Feminism, Sex, Uncategorized, Women's Department, feminism, keeping it real | Tagged , , , , , , , , | Comments (32)
Oct
06
2005

Dear Reader: Go Fuck Yourself

A reader wrote:
Late at night your long-time female partner believes you are alseep and commences to masturbate right there beside you in the cot.
The unmistakable sound of her arousal soon has e breathing heavy, but she’s concentrating so hard she thinks it is snoring coming from my side of the bed.
What should a man [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, Questions From Readers, Sex | Tagged , , , | Comments (0)
Sep
01
2005

The Young Woman’s Guide to Getting Over Herself

This was a posting over at www.NYHotties.com by yours truly. The blog owner there is Alexa, so this was a letter sent to Alexa, and Alexa asked me to answer it for her:
Hi, I’m Steff, and I’ll be your cruise director tonight.
I’m a Canadian girl, born & raised in Vancouver, and I run a [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, How To Guides, Orgasm Trouble, Questions From Readers, Sex, Women's Department | Tagged , , , | Comments (2)
Aug
21
2005

Sexual Q & A: Twofer on Masturbation & Lovers’ Age Differences

Anonymous wants to know about masturbating in front of a partner.

What about it? Should you do it? Is it cool? Is it freaky? I don’t know specifically what you’re asking, so let’s tackle it all.
STEFF RESPONDS:
No question. Do it. There’s nothing wrong with masturbating for your partner. In fact, I encourage you to. As mentioned [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, Questions From Readers | Tagged , , , , , | Comments (9)