Category Archives: Men's Department

Jan
06
2009

The Museum of Penis

I’m unlikely to ever, ever be interested in the Museum of Sex if it’s going to be this misogynistic before I even put foot in the door. I mean, if there was a woman anywhere on this creative team, I’ll eat my bra. And it has an underwire!

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Dating, History, Humour, Modern Feminism, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Sex, Sexism, Society, Steff Rants | Tagged , , , , , | Comments (5)
Aug
18
2008

Unprotected Sex: What if Condoms Make the Guy "Soft"

I am militant now, in my “old” age, about protection during sex. The question is, why isn’t everyone?
The images, albeit creepy and disturbing, are some very effective AIDS-awareness posters from France. I thought they illustrated this posting well.
A reader named Helen left a great comment today on a posting I think everyone should read, personally, [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in AIDS & STDs, Best of Steff, Dating, Hygiene & Health, Laws, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Questions From Readers, Sex, Society, Steff Rants, Women's Department | Tagged , , , | Comments (1)
Aug
15
2008

A Frank Posting about Giving Head

Hey, wow! Just noticed as I was adding the comments to my archive postings on how to give GREAT head [starts here] that it was three years ago today I published that posting that defined this blog. Aww! Let’s hear it for nostalgia.
So, it’s fitting then, we should have a little chat about blowjobs today. [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Best of Steff, Dating, Etiquette, Foreplay & Arousing, Modern Feminism, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Oral Sex, Specifically Steff, casual sex | Tagged , , , , , , | Comments (6)
Aug
14
2008

The Day-After Blogging Shame

You know, this whole recovering-Catholic thing plays so badly with writing any kind of exposés about my own sex life.
I feel horribly guilty, like a first-class cunt, for having posted my thingie about my “underwhelming weekend sex” yesterday. But then I got to thinking about it.
First, I placed an ad for sex. I made it [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Best of Steff, Dating, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Oral Sex, Sex, Specifically Steff, Steff Rants, casual sex | Tagged , , , , | Comments (9)
Jun
19
2008

On Oral, A Reader Asks: Can I Really Tease Her For More Than An Hour?

some days are clean slates, just waiting for some input, a spark, a suggestion. some days are lazy days of slack, and on such a day, it’s nice to receive a great email from a snazzy reader, especially when it’s something worth spending a little time writing on. if you have something you think i [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, Best of Steff, Foreplay & Arousing, Gay or Straight?, How To Guides, Oral Sex, Questions From Readers, Sex, Women's Department | Tagged , , , , , | Comments (5)
Oct
19
2005

Decoding Feminine Desire: Yeah, Right

Okay, so supposedly you’re all here ‘cos this girl knows her shit, right?
I gotta tell you, though, I’m stumped. Seems a reader who simply goes by “Regular” wants to know how a man can then get his woman all riled in response to the posting below this one, A Few Ways To Get Your Man [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, Dating, Foreplay & Arousing, Lust & Longing, Questions From Readers, Romance, Sex | Tagged , | Comments (15)
Oct
12
2005

Baker’s Dozen: Yeast Infections

Once upon a world, a reader asked me to write a little something about yeast infections. Uh… know what? I don’t wanna. What a topic.
But here’s the deal. It’s important to know about them, so I’ll say a couple things.
First off, they’re a sexually transmitted disease, people. Yes. They’re not just an inconvenience, but are [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Hygiene & Health, Sex, Women's Department | Tagged , , | Comments (4)
Sep
29
2005

Getting Stiffed By the Stiffy & Happy Birthday to Me

I’m 32 today, folks. That being the case, I’m a little busy being busy and birthdayish for the next couple of days. YAY me.
I wrote this posting over on NYHotties for you kids to read in answer to LabBoy’s question about the “five-minute” rule — you know, how guys tend to blow their wad the [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, Dating, How To Guides, Orgasm Trouble, Questions From Readers, Sex, Sex Toys & Aids, dysfunction | Tagged , , , | Comments (10)
Sep
28
2005

I Don’t Wanna Be Your Dog

My latest raunchy rant can be found over at Alexa’s sizzling site, NYHotties.com, where I’ll be a frequent contributor for awhile.
Here’s the link if you wanna read the comments. Here’s the posting in full, though:
I’m sorry, Iggy, but it’s true.
This one goes out to the porn school boys. Yeah. You know who you are. The [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Dating, Lust & Longing, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Sex, Steff Rants, Women's Department | Tagged , , , , | Comments (2)
Sep
24
2005

You asked? Cock Rings

Chelsea Girl requested that I address the issue of cock rings. So, here goes.
Once upon a time, in Middle Earth, a Hobbit named Frodo went on a quest to destroy the One Ring that would rule them all… Err. Well. Okay, different ring.
A cock ring is a blood-flow restrictor for the penis. Cock rings are [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, How To Guides, Questions From Readers, Sex, Sex Toys & Aids | Tagged , , , | Comments (14)
Sep
04
2005

The Man’s Guide to Cunnilingus: Part 4

This is part four in my opus on cunnilingus.
Part one is here, part two is here, and part three is here.
Tackling a lover orally can be quite different for the two sexes, not just for the obvious reasons.
As far as I’ve been able to discern, sucking dick’s the same no matter how you approach it. [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, How To Guides, Oral Sex, Sex, Women's Department | Tagged , , , , | Comments (21)
Aug
31
2005

DISCUSSION: Mr. Softee and the Minute-Man

A lovely blog-girlie I know in NYC is caught in a dilemma.
There’s a boy she likes. (They’re in their mid-20s.) Recently, they got to playing — making out hot and heavy for nearly an hour on the sofa. She was a little baffled to find he wasn’t getting hard, despite the heat. Being the caring, [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, Questions From Readers, Sex, Women's Department | Tagged , , | Comments (21)
Aug
30
2005

The Man’s Guide to Cunnilingus Pt. 3

If you’re new to this discussion, read Part One here, Part One-B here, and Part Two here.
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We left off with me urging you to get in touch with your inner bastard and enter her for two or three teasing, taunting thrusts before leaving her wanting more.
That done, feel free to grin mischeviously and tell her [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, How To Guides, Oral Sex, Questions From Readers, Sex, Women's Department | Tagged , , , , | Comments (29)
Aug
28
2005

The Man’s Guide to Cunnilingus Pt. 2

I’m assuming you’ve read part one of this? As a preamble to part two, I’d like to get you to read the scene found below from the show Friends. The point is pretty basic: Almost every chick has had the experience where a guy just has no clue how many erogenous zones we have — [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, How To Guides, Oral Sex, Questions From Readers, Sex, Uncategorized, Women's Department | Tagged , , , , | Comments (24)
Aug
28
2005

The Sex Tips Scene from "Friends"

When this scene originally aired nearly a decade ago, I howled with laughter. I thought it was as true then as it is now, that guys fail to realize just how goddamned much of our bodies can be tagged as erogenous zones. This was from early in the fourth season. I think it’s relevant to [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, General, How To Guides, Oral Sex, Sex, Women's Department | Tagged , , , , | Comments (5)
Aug
27
2005

The Man’s Guide to Cunnilingus: Pt. 1

I had an anonymous request to do a companion guide for my “Good Girl’s Guide to Giving Great Head,” so here we go.
I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again. Oral sex is best when it’s a long, dedicated endeavour. If you want a quickie, then fuck and be done with it. If you [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, How To Guides, Oral Sex, Questions From Readers, Sex, Women's Department | Tagged , , , , | Comments (37)
Aug
22
2005

Sexual Q&A: It’s a gusher! Ejaculation ethics

This is a MONSTER post. It’s a monster topic. I’m hoping to provoke a lot of discussion and will leave this front and centre for a couple days.
Recently, an anonymous poster asked about the notion of “facials.” IE: Ejaculating on a lover’s face during the act.
I had a conversation with my friend GayBoy about this [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Ethics, Hygiene & Health, Questions From Readers, Sex, Women's Department | Tagged , , , , | Comments (50)
Jul
30
2005

Making the cut

One of my fave people, Steve, wrote this nifty little bit on circumcision. I didn’t realize that there was such a difference in percentages between the UK & the US as far as how many men are circumcised. It starts with a hilarious men’s room account. Do read it.
My two cents? Less is more. Like [...]

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