When this blog first began, for its first year or so, it was all sex or relationships that I was writing about. Most of the time, anyhow, as I kept my “personal” writing on another blog. Somewhere along the way, I gave up separating the two.
But as I’m getting into writing my book, something’s got [...]
Four years ago I wrote a posting about cheating and in it I had a little rant about being called an “older woman” by the letter-writer when I was only 32. The posting is here, and today I deleted a comment that referred to the rant-within-the-posting with this comment that I’ve chosen to delete for [...]
By A Scribe Called Steff
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Also posted in Communication, Lifestyle, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Oral Sex, Specifically Steff, Uncategorized, keeping it real, sexuality
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Tagged ageism, asshats, cougars, double standards, Ethics, hang-ups, hypocrisy, judgment, labels, morality, old-fashioned, overt, physicality, sexuality, slutty, Society, stupidity
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Rumour has it that Brittany Murphy is dead at 32 from cardiac arrest.
Heart attack, in case you didn’t know, is one of the most common demises after long battles with eating disorders. Why?
“When anorexia has become this severe, the heart is often damaged. Not only is there not enough body fat to keep internal organs [...]
By A Scribe Called Steff
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Also posted in Eating Disorder, Hollywood, Hygiene & Health, Life 101, Loving and Knowing Yourself, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Self-Love & Self-Esteem, Society, Steff Rants, keeping it real, weight loss
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Tagged anorexia, beauty magazines, bulimia, Eating Disorder, emotional issues, fashion industry, pressure, unhealthy weight, weight
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I was 16 on December 6th, 1989, when gunman Marc Lepine stormed into Montreal’s Ecole Polytechnique, an engineering school.
When the blood had spilled and screams for the 14 dead women faded into muffled tears, it was found that the gunman had left a note explaining his actions — he’d wanted to kill feminists for making [...]
By A Scribe Called Steff
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Also posted in Dimestore Philosophy, History, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Politics, Sexism, Society, Specifically Steff, Women's Department, feminism, keeping it real
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Tagged change, division, ecole polytechnique, ecole polytechnique massacre, evolution, fear, feminism, hate, massacre, modern women, montreal massacre, rights, Society, struggle, violence
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This op-ed assumes you know that: Roman Polanski was convicted of “unlawful sexual intercourse with a minor” in ‘78, in which he admitted plying a 13-year-old full of Quaaludes & booze with the intent of having sex with her in every manner possible. He pled guilty, public opinion came against the law who were going [...]
By A Scribe Called Steff
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Also posted in Current Events, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Society, Steff Rants, keeping it real
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Tagged evasion, geimer, Hollywood, polanski arrested, rape, roman polanski, the view, whoopi goldberg
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Reinforcing the reality that more than half of all marriages embarked upon will end in catastrophic divorce, the news has come out that Archie has popped the big question to Veronica.
Are they getting married? Well, that will all depend. This could be (and likely is) all just a big ploy to get people reinterested in [...]
I had to doublecheck my old-school calendar just now. Holy fuck, it really is 2009. Who knew?
Clearly not the folks running the Miss California Pageant.
Yeah, Miss California. You remember her? Perez Hilton went all “oh, no you didn’t [SNAP]” as a result of the ass-backward beauty’s anti-gay marriage stance she posited while she grinned and [...]
By A Scribe Called Steff
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Also posted in Current Events, Dimestore Philosophy, How To Guides, Loving and Knowing Yourself, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Politics, Society, Steff Rants, feminism
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Tagged beauty queen, boob job, breast implants, miss california, miss california pageant, plastic surgery, rant
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I can’t stand elitism. I can’t stand the “we’re better than you” mentality. And I sure as fuck can’t stand when someone’s got to get their hate on just to get ahead.
A particular blog post from someone in the sex blogging community is ridiculously sexist and moronic in its simplicity, in my opinion. Because I [...]
By A Scribe Called Steff
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Also posted in Current Events, Dimestore Philosophy, Ethics, General, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Sexism, Society, Specifically Steff, Steff Rants, Women's Department, feminism
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Tagged chauvinism, extremism, feminism, getting along, hatred, pettiness, Sexism
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Fear is not my friend. I don’t care what the bookstore’s self-help section says.
Fear is a bitch. A mean, driven bitch.
I am not a fan of fear.
I bought that book. Twice. Feel The Fear and Do It Anyways. Sometimes I do it anyways. But I always feel the fear. Ever-present, always-niggling fear.
Fortunately I know that [...]
By A Scribe Called Steff
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Also posted in Being single, Dating, Dimestore Philosophy, Journalling, Loving and Knowing Yourself, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Self-Love & Self-Esteem, Sex, Specifically Steff, weight loss
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Tagged ambivalence, answers, change, Dating, fear, feminism, fucking up, growth, making right, mistakes, moving on, questions, self
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Hormones. I hate them.
Periods are a necessary evil in every woman’s life. What can we do? It’s there. Monthly. Looming dangerously and tauntingly on every lunar cycle.
My time used to be the full moon. Now, for some reason, I’m magically on the waxing half-moon. Which means I got caught by surprise at work. On a [...]
It’s morning, before 7, there’s both fresh snow and fresh coffee. I was spent by 10 last night and fell asleep during Eli Stone, so I’m finishing it off before I begin the painful commute to work.
There’s a moment when, after a promising four-date relationship crumbles to dust, Eli says simply, “It’s not like I [...]
By A Scribe Called Steff
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Also posted in Being single, Dating, Dimestore Philosophy, Journalling, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Specifically Steff, weight loss
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Tagged christmas, Dating, eli stone, loneliness, waking up alone
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Body image. Stand any one of us in front of a mirror, ask us to reveal what we dislike about ourselves, and an unhesitating list would be quickly forthcoming.
Industry knows this. They count on it. All the way to the bank.
If you’re happy about yourself, why would you ever spend all that disposable income on [...]
Hey, wow! Just noticed as I was adding the comments to my archive postings on how to give GREAT head [starts here] that it was three years ago today I published that posting that defined this blog. Aww! Let’s hear it for nostalgia.
So, it’s fitting then, we should have a little chat about blowjobs today. [...]
By A Scribe Called Steff
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Also posted in Best of Steff, Dating, Etiquette, Foreplay & Arousing, Men's Department, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Oral Sex, Specifically Steff, casual sex
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Tagged foreplay, gag reflex, giving head, Oral Sex, orgasms, penises, Sex
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Sex. It’s been a while. Honestly? It’s been two years.
As I’ve written about at length, I went on anti-depressants the summer of ‘06, after birth control pills messed my body up something fierce, at the tail end of a relationship that turned to shit in record time, while getting laid off of multiple jobs in [...]
By A Scribe Called Steff
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Also posted in Best of Steff, Dating, General, Humour, Masturbation, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Specifically Steff, Steff Rants
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Tagged anti-depressants, hormones, lack of sex, libido, personal ads, stupid people
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I know I’m Canadian, and I’ve not had to live under George Bush, but as a girl next door, I have spent much of the last eight years comprehensively alarmed by the steady erosion of freedom under this current American administration, and the assault on the sexual choices and options of the voting public, among [...]
By A Scribe Called Steff
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Also posted in Best of Steff, Laws, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Politics, Society, Steff Rants, sugasm
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Tagged bush, erosion of freedom, politics and religion, redefining abortion, right-wing politics, roe versus wade, sugasm
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There I was, desperately locking and re-locking the bathroom door in the back of a Subway sandwich shop, panicking that I might be heard, or maybe the Catholic in me felt the location was just morally wrong for that sort of thing, but I didn’t give a shit. The time was nigh, now or never, [...]
By A Scribe Called Steff
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Also posted in Best of Steff, Consumerism, Dating, Humour, Journalling, Sex, Specifically Steff, Women's Department, casual sex
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Tagged being shameless, doing it in public, home pregnancy test, missed periods, nerves, paranoid
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Oh, god. I was so wrong about how my night would unfold. I think I’m still drunk.
It was 4:20 pm when I decided to just randomly text GayBoy. Our exchange went like this:
“We should get drunk this weekend.”
“Should we? What do you suggest?”
“I hear alcohol works.”
“People do say that. What type?”
“I’m cooking fish later, you [...]
By A Scribe Called Steff
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Also posted in Best of Steff, Dating, Drugs, General, Humour, Journalling, Sexism, Specifically Steff
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Tagged drunk, fridge, gayboy, heat wave, sexist electrician, tequila
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[Steff note: This posting began as an attempt for me to try and explain a little why women should act out loud when they're masturbating in the privacy of home -- thrusting, grabbing at their breasts and ass, grunting, whatever it takes... but it got a lot deeper and a lot bigger than just a [...]
By A Scribe Called Steff
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Also posted in Advice, Best of Steff, Foreplay & Arousing, Masturbation, Orgasm Trouble, Women's Department
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Tagged being vocal during sex, how to masturbate better, jilling, techniques for female masturbation, techniques for women, using masturbation to improve sex
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The INT ran a fascinating story on the end of tradition in Albania last week. The article begins:
Pashe Keqi recalls the day nearly sixty years ago when she decided to become a man. She chopped off her long black curls, traded in her dress for her father’s baggy trousers, armed herself with a hunting rifle [...]
Every now and then male-female relations seem like a bad day at the UN. Understanding the issues is imperative, but no one speaks the same language.
John Gray got rich off the chaos that exists in that weird little world of relationships, by telling us that men were from Mars, and women from Venus. It’s true. [...]
By A Scribe Called Steff
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Also posted in Advice, Loving and Knowing Yourself, Masturbation, Sex, Uncategorized, Women's Department, feminism, keeping it real
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Tagged comfort, hang-ups, learning about yourself, Masturbation, self-love, sexual skill, touching yourself, who masturbates, why you should masturbate
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The Museum of Penis
I’m unlikely to ever, ever be interested in the Museum of Sex if it’s going to be this misogynistic before I even put foot in the door. I mean, if there was a woman anywhere on this creative team, I’ll eat my bra. And it has an underwire!