Category Archives: Orgasm Trouble

Mar
16
2010

RetroSteff: Why 40% of Women Don’t Masturbate

When this blog first began, for its first year or so, it was all sex or relationships that I was writing about. Most of the time, anyhow, as I kept my “personal” writing on another blog. Somewhere along the way, I gave up separating the two.
But as I’m getting into writing my book, something’s got [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Lifestyle, Masturbation, Modern Feminism, Self-Love & Self-Esteem, Sex, Women's Department, feminism, keeping it real | Comments (0)
Nov
25
2008

How to REALLY Do Kegels: Things I’ve Learned In Rehab

PLEASE READ THE COMMENT DISCUSSION ON THIS POSTING, SINCE THERE ARE VALID CONCERNS BEFORE FOLLOWING ANYTHING IN THIS POSTING. Let me be perfectly clear: This is NOT a posting about how to heal back pain. This remedy is for MY back pain, conjured after a few hours of one-on-one time with a physiotherapist who took [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, How To Guides, Hygiene & Health, Specifically Steff | Tagged , , , , , , , | Comments (6)
Aug
11
2008

Vaginas: Uptight, everything’s all right? Not so much.

There’s a scene in The Tailor of Panama in which Pierce Brosnan, as Andy Osnard, a British spy reassigned to Panama, is shown his new office for the first time by his hot but too tense new colleague.
He wanders to a safe in the wall above his new desk and starts trying to crack the [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, Best of Steff, Hygiene & Health, Loving and Knowing Yourself, Masturbation, Sex Toys & Aids, Women's Department, dysfunction | Tagged , , , , , | Comments (7)
Jul
04
2008

On Female Masturbation, Faking Orgasms, & The Psychology of Sex

[Steff note: This posting began as an attempt for me to try and explain a little why women should act out loud when they're masturbating in the privacy of home -- thrusting, grabbing at their breasts and ass, grunting, whatever it takes... but it got a lot deeper and a lot bigger than just a [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, Best of Steff, Foreplay & Arousing, Masturbation, Modern Feminism, Women's Department | Tagged , , , , , | Comments (4)
Sep
29
2005

Getting Stiffed By the Stiffy & Happy Birthday to Me

I’m 32 today, folks. That being the case, I’m a little busy being busy and birthdayish for the next couple of days. YAY me.
I wrote this posting over on NYHotties for you kids to read in answer to LabBoy’s question about the “five-minute” rule — you know, how guys tend to blow their wad the [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, Dating, How To Guides, Men's Department, Questions From Readers, Sex, Sex Toys & Aids, dysfunction | Tagged , , , | Comments (10)
Sep
01
2005

Lousy Lover Syndrome

DirtyTalkingGirl (DTG) over at Pussy Talk recently posted this about her lover’s stubborness in wanting to get her off through oral:
I have to say that M gave me his best last night. He went down on me unasked, made all the right moves with tongue and lips, pulled my thighs over his shoulders, changed position [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Sex, Steff Rants | Tagged , , , | Comments (22)
Sep
01
2005

The Young Woman’s Guide to Getting Over Herself

This was a posting over at www.NYHotties.com by yours truly. The blog owner there is Alexa, so this was a letter sent to Alexa, and Alexa asked me to answer it for her:
Hi, I’m Steff, and I’ll be your cruise director tonight.
I’m a Canadian girl, born & raised in Vancouver, and I run a [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, How To Guides, Masturbation, Questions From Readers, Sex, Women's Department | Tagged , , , | Comments (2)