Category Archives: Questions From Readers

Sep
30
2008

Barely There? A Rare Photo of Me…Or, My Body Parts, At Least

Today, it seems, was the last day of summer for us Vancouverites. A Pineapple Express is forecasted to begin Thursday. (The dreaded “Pineapple Express” is any rain-bearing system that wanders up our way from the Hawaiian Islands. Usually packed with days and days of hard rains.)
Knowing it’s the end of something good, I decided today [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Best of Steff, General, Journalling, Specifically Steff | Tagged , , , , , | Comments (7)
Sep
15
2008

And Then It Was Monday

Hi, kids. We haven’t had a catch-up chat for a while, have we?
I’d love to have something brilliant to write for you today. Really. I got nothing. So you can leave now if it’s profundity you seek. For you, good lasses and sirs, I offer a serving of vapidity.
See, I spent my whole weekend huffing [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in General, Journalling, Specifically Steff | Tagged , , , , , , , | Comments (6)
Aug
21
2008

My Reader, Oraless-For-25-Years, is Getting Oral!

So, remember the reader who wrote me a couple weeks back to say that her hubby sucked ass at oral, and had for 25 years?
Now, a bunch of guys wrote comments, saying, “Well, maybe it’s not all his fault”, but what I’d neglected to say was that we’d exchanged about a half-dozen emails or so [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Best of Steff, Oral Sex, Sex | Tagged , , , | Comments (6)
Aug
18
2008

Unprotected Sex: What if Condoms Make the Guy "Soft"

I am militant now, in my “old” age, about protection during sex. The question is, why isn’t everyone?
The images, albeit creepy and disturbing, are some very effective AIDS-awareness posters from France. I thought they illustrated this posting well.
A reader named Helen left a great comment today on a posting I think everyone should read, personally, [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in AIDS & STDs, Best of Steff, Dating, Hygiene & Health, Laws, Men's Department, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Sex, Society, Steff Rants, Women's Department | Tagged , , , | Comments (1)
Aug
08
2008

So Why The Hell Do I Write About Sex Anyhow?

I weighed myself this morning, and I’m officially down FORTY-SEVEN pounds. Whoop, there it went! But… I’m only half-way to my goal of losing 100 pounds. And that’s okay. I promised myself I’d do it slowly and in a sustainable way, and I am.
Let’s talk about wanker’s comment again (on this post), which isn’t worth [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Battle of the Comments, Best of Steff, General, Journalling, Modern Feminism, Specifically Steff, Steff Rants | Tagged , , , , , | Comments (4)
Aug
07
2008

A Few Thoughts on Comments, And Sugasm 142

Despite stupidity rearing its head last night in the form of yet another asshole comment by yet another asshole, and the rise of a would-be stalker, for the time being I’m going to hold off on comment moderation despite my first instinct to start regulating them.
Why? Well, for starters, I really love the dialogue that [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Battle of the Comments, Best of Steff, Journalling, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Specifically Steff, Steff Rants, sugasm | Tagged , , , , , | Comments (3)
Aug
03
2008

Reader Says:He’s Hated Giving Me Oral for 25 Years

Oh, dear, oh, dear. Ohh. Sigh.
So here’s a letter I received today–
We’ve been married 25 years, intercourse has always been great. Hubby has never learned to be good with his hands but orally he’s a dunce. I gave up many years ago. I have dropped 60 lbs and my libido went [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, Best of Steff, Marriage & Other Commitments, Oral Sex, Sex, Women's Department, sugasm | Tagged , , | Comments (7)
Jun
19
2008

On Oral, A Reader Asks: Can I Really Tease Her For More Than An Hour?

some days are clean slates, just waiting for some input, a spark, a suggestion. some days are lazy days of slack, and on such a day, it’s nice to receive a great email from a snazzy reader, especially when it’s something worth spending a little time writing on. if you have something you think i [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, Best of Steff, Foreplay & Arousing, Gay or Straight?, How To Guides, Men's Department, Oral Sex, Sex, Women's Department | Tagged , , , , , | Comments (5)
Oct
19
2005

Decoding Feminine Desire: Yeah, Right

Okay, so supposedly you’re all here ‘cos this girl knows her shit, right?
I gotta tell you, though, I’m stumped. Seems a reader who simply goes by “Regular” wants to know how a man can then get his woman all riled in response to the posting below this one, A Few Ways To Get Your Man [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, Dating, Foreplay & Arousing, Lust & Longing, Men's Department, Romance, Sex | Tagged , | Comments (15)
Oct
06
2005

Dear Reader: Go Fuck Yourself

A reader wrote:
Late at night your long-time female partner believes you are alseep and commences to masturbate right there beside you in the cot.
The unmistakable sound of her arousal soon has e breathing heavy, but she’s concentrating so hard she thinks it is snoring coming from my side of the bed.
What should a man [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, Masturbation, Sex | Tagged , , , | Comments (0)
Sep
29
2005

Getting Stiffed By the Stiffy & Happy Birthday to Me

I’m 32 today, folks. That being the case, I’m a little busy being busy and birthdayish for the next couple of days. YAY me.
I wrote this posting over on NYHotties for you kids to read in answer to LabBoy’s question about the “five-minute” rule — you know, how guys tend to blow their wad the [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, Dating, How To Guides, Men's Department, Orgasm Trouble, Sex, Sex Toys & Aids, dysfunction | Tagged , , , | Comments (10)
Sep
24
2005

You asked? Cock Rings

Chelsea Girl requested that I address the issue of cock rings. So, here goes.
Once upon a time, in Middle Earth, a Hobbit named Frodo went on a quest to destroy the One Ring that would rule them all… Err. Well. Okay, different ring.
A cock ring is a blood-flow restrictor for the penis. Cock rings are [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, How To Guides, Men's Department, Sex, Sex Toys & Aids | Tagged , , , | Comments (14)
Sep
22
2005

Harrass this, you PC bastards

When I recently whored myself for more topics, Grover Flanagan asked this:
Ooh! Ooh! I’ve got one! A new girl just started at work. She’s either as tall or just a bit taller than I am, cute as hell, and built like a brick house. (what a winning hand!) I’ve introduced myself, but have no idea [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, Dating, Laws | Tagged , , , | Comments (7)
Sep
10
2005

Reader Conundrum: The 30+ Year-Old Virgin

I had an email from a woman who wanted to remain anonymous.

“So how is the world with a virgin on the other side of 30? How virgin you may ask? Too! I haven’t even had a kiss since highschool so…. Am I going to end up a lost cause? I don’t even know how to [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, Dating, Sex, Viginity | Tagged , , , | Comments (13)
Sep
01
2005

The Young Woman’s Guide to Getting Over Herself

This was a posting over at www.NYHotties.com by yours truly. The blog owner there is Alexa, so this was a letter sent to Alexa, and Alexa asked me to answer it for her:
Hi, I’m Steff, and I’ll be your cruise director tonight.
I’m a Canadian girl, born & raised in Vancouver, and I run a [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, How To Guides, Masturbation, Orgasm Trouble, Sex, Women's Department | Tagged , , , | Comments (2)
Aug
31
2005

DISCUSSION: Mr. Softee and the Minute-Man

A lovely blog-girlie I know in NYC is caught in a dilemma.
There’s a boy she likes. (They’re in their mid-20s.) Recently, they got to playing — making out hot and heavy for nearly an hour on the sofa. She was a little baffled to find he wasn’t getting hard, despite the heat. Being the caring, [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, Men's Department, Sex, Women's Department | Tagged , , | Comments (21)
Aug
30
2005

The Man’s Guide to Cunnilingus Pt. 3

If you’re new to this discussion, read Part One here, Part One-B here, and Part Two here.
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We left off with me urging you to get in touch with your inner bastard and enter her for two or three teasing, taunting thrusts before leaving her wanting more.
That done, feel free to grin mischeviously and tell her [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, How To Guides, Men's Department, Oral Sex, Sex, Women's Department | Tagged , , , , | Comments (29)
Aug
28
2005

The Man’s Guide to Cunnilingus Pt. 2

I’m assuming you’ve read part one of this? As a preamble to part two, I’d like to get you to read the scene found below from the show Friends. The point is pretty basic: Almost every chick has had the experience where a guy just has no clue how many erogenous zones we have — [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, How To Guides, Men's Department, Oral Sex, Sex, Uncategorized, Women's Department | Tagged , , , , | Comments (24)
Aug
27
2005

The Man’s Guide to Cunnilingus: Pt. 1

I had an anonymous request to do a companion guide for my “Good Girl’s Guide to Giving Great Head,” so here we go.
I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again. Oral sex is best when it’s a long, dedicated endeavour. If you want a quickie, then fuck and be done with it. If you [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, How To Guides, Men's Department, Oral Sex, Sex, Women's Department | Tagged , , , , | Comments (37)
Aug
24
2005

Sexual Q&A: What’s so hot about that?

A male reader emailed me to ask me what it is that men find so hot about the stockings-’n-panties look. I said, “Can’t help you! I’m a girl!”
So, boys, what’s the deal? Does it get you riled, too? Can you pinpoint why?
Me, if I was a guy, it’d likely be the whole Meg Ryan panties’n’tank [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in General | Tagged | Comments (22)
Aug
22
2005

Sexual Q&A: It’s a gusher! Ejaculation ethics

This is a MONSTER post. It’s a monster topic. I’m hoping to provoke a lot of discussion and will leave this front and centre for a couple days.
Recently, an anonymous poster asked about the notion of “facials.” IE: Ejaculating on a lover’s face during the act.
I had a conversation with my friend GayBoy about this [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Ethics, Hygiene & Health, Men's Department, Sex, Women's Department | Tagged , , , , | Comments (50)
Aug
21
2005

Sexual Q & A: Twofer on Masturbation & Lovers’ Age Differences

Anonymous wants to know about masturbating in front of a partner.

What about it? Should you do it? Is it cool? Is it freaky? I don’t know specifically what you’re asking, so let’s tackle it all.
STEFF RESPONDS:
No question. Do it. There’s nothing wrong with masturbating for your partner. In fact, I encourage you to. As mentioned [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, Masturbation | Tagged , , , , , | Comments (9)