Category Archives: Women's Department

Dec
06
2009

6 Decembre 1989: Remembering a Formative Tragedy

I was 16 on December 6th, 1989, when gunman Marc Lepine stormed into Montreal’s Ecole Polytechnique, an engineering school.
When the blood had spilled and screams for the 14 dead women faded into muffled tears, it was found that the gunman had left a note explaining his actions — he’d wanted to kill feminists for making [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Dimestore Philosophy, History, Modern Feminism, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Politics, Sexism, Society, Specifically Steff, feminism, keeping it real | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Comments (4)
Nov
23
2009

The Relationship-Saving iPhone App

If there’s anything I love about my iPhone, it’s that I’m starting to be able to micromanage my life.
There’s an app for everything!
Like iPeriod.
Men, before you go “ACK, NO, NOT PERIOD TALK” — think about the brilliance here. AN EARLY WARNING SYSTEM. A bitchy-factor crystal ball! All for you! You wanted it… they invented it.

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Education, Product Reviews | Tagged , , , , , , , | Comments (1)
Oct
12
2009

Damn Right, It Feels Good

I’ve been remiss in mentioning a book the publishers Rodale sent to me at the end of the summer. I usually turn down offers of free products because I hate feeling obligated when it comes to writing reviews afterward, but when the rep told me what Debby Herbenick’s book, Because it Feels Good: A Woman’s [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, Books, Education, Product Reviews, Sex | Tagged , , , , , | Comments (0)
Jun
15
2009

And Then The Phone Rang

Got a message from my doctor, apparently my ultrasound’s all clear.
But it doesn’t really ease my mind.
The reality is, I know something’s different. So if that’s not it, what? But I’ve changed so much in my life in the last 18 months, and so much has changed on me, that a starting point for what’s [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Hygiene & Health, Specifically Steff, weight loss | Tagged , , , , | Comments (3)
Jun
14
2009

Now What? Waiting.

See my last posting. I know nothing. Knowing nothing will be the status quo for a couple more days possibly.
I have nothing more to really say about it. I know nothing. Que sera sera.
I had an ultrasound. Anything there? I don’t know. When my technician found the ovaries, her demeanour changed. The conversation about my [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Hygiene & Health, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Specifically Steff | Tagged , , , , , , , , | Comments (3)
Jun
08
2009

My Very Emotional Day

I should be bouncing madly, ready for the Von Bondies to take the stage shortly, but I bailed on my best friend for an evening at home, after a very emotional day.
Please comment, but don’t do the well-meaning “Oh, Steff, you poor thing” stuff, ‘cos that usually gets me worked up and thinking I should [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Hygiene & Health, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Psychology & Moods, Specifically Steff | Tagged , , , , , , | Comments (7)
Apr
24
2009

RANT: You Think You’re A Feminist?

I can’t stand elitism. I can’t stand the “we’re better than you” mentality. And I sure as fuck can’t stand when someone’s got to get their hate on just to get ahead.
A particular blog post from someone in the sex blogging community is ridiculously sexist and moronic in its simplicity, in my opinion. Because I [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Current Events, Dimestore Philosophy, Ethics, General, Modern Feminism, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Sexism, Society, Specifically Steff, Steff Rants, feminism | Tagged , , , , , , | Comments (3)
Feb
02
2009

My Time of Paradox

Hormones. I hate them.
Periods are a necessary evil in every woman’s life. What can we do? It’s there. Monthly. Looming dangerously and tauntingly on every lunar cycle.
My time used to be the full moon. Now, for some reason, I’m magically on the waxing half-moon. Which means I got caught by surprise at work. On a [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Modern Feminism, Sex, Specifically Steff | Tagged , , , | Comments (5)
Nov
22
2008

My Clitoris & I Wrote My Toilet Paper Manufacturer

Dear Toilet Paper Manufacturer:
You lied.
You said your paper was soft and pure. It is, you claim, a “premium” paper.
Sadly, my clitoris disagrees.
I don’t know if you realize, but girl parts are sensitive. Nice soft fleshy bits, hypersensitive to touch and even sensation? Very?
My clitoris feels your product isn’t premium. That it, in fact, is [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Consumerism, Humour, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Sex, Society, Specifically Steff | Tagged , , , , | Comments (4)
Sep
22
2008

Sex-Toy Review: The Stubby G!

Let’s talk sex toys today. Specifically, I’ll be reviewing The Stubby G.
First, I want to explain how a few things work for all y’all, since I know sex-blog readers see these reviews all the time, and, personally, I see that 95% of them are positive, so I could understand how review-readers might skeptically dismiss us [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Foreplay & Arousing, Hygiene & Health, Masturbation, Sex, Sex Toy Reviews, Sex Toys & Aids | Tagged , , , , , , , | Comments (2)
Sep
20
2008

Don’t Mind Her; It’s Just Hormones

Men may balk if they see this is about periods, but they really should read it, methinks, for a little perspective.
Yesterday, during the afternoon of my Shitty, Shitty Day, I got my period. In the space of about 30 minutes, my eye infection suddenly started flushing itself out, and my emotions just totally took a [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Best of Steff, Humour, Hygiene & Health, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Psychology & Moods, Society, Steff Rants | Tagged , , , , , , | Comments (9)
Sep
19
2008

My Bad, Bad Week: More Than You Need To Know

I couldn’t possibly feel more unattractive than I do today. Except maybe if I had an 8-inch goiter growing out of my neck and crumbling teeth or something.
I have an eye infection that has my left eye with this just-throttled-by-Rocky swollen-bloodshot look going on. That’s fun. Really.
Because that wasn’t fun enough, I’ve also come down [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Best of Steff, Current Events, General, Humour, Journalling, Specifically Steff, Steff Rants | Tagged , , , , , | Comments (2)
Sep
08
2008

Sex Toy Review: "The Lovely (and lamely-named) Rose"

I’m sorry, but I often really, really hate the name of sex toys. And this is no exception.
From Emma’s Passion Garden comes the Dual Rose aka “The Lovely Rose.” Jesus, people. Fire the marketing department, because this toy deserves so much better. Really.
Nonetheless, when a guy was recently given the choice of what toy to [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Foreplay & Arousing, Hygiene & Health, Masturbation, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Sex Toy Reviews, Sex Toys & Aids | Tagged , , , , , | Comments (5)
Aug
18
2008

Unprotected Sex: What if Condoms Make the Guy "Soft"

I am militant now, in my “old” age, about protection during sex. The question is, why isn’t everyone?
The images, albeit creepy and disturbing, are some very effective AIDS-awareness posters from France. I thought they illustrated this posting well.
A reader named Helen left a great comment today on a posting I think everyone should read, personally, [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in AIDS & STDs, Best of Steff, Dating, Hygiene & Health, Laws, Men's Department, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Questions From Readers, Sex, Society, Steff Rants | Tagged , , , | Comments (1)
Aug
11
2008

Vaginas: Uptight, everything’s all right? Not so much.

There’s a scene in The Tailor of Panama in which Pierce Brosnan, as Andy Osnard, a British spy reassigned to Panama, is shown his new office for the first time by his hot but too tense new colleague.
He wanders to a safe in the wall above his new desk and starts trying to crack the [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, Best of Steff, Hygiene & Health, Loving and Knowing Yourself, Masturbation, Orgasm Trouble, Sex Toys & Aids, dysfunction | Tagged , , , , , | Comments (7)
Aug
03
2008

Reader Says:He’s Hated Giving Me Oral for 25 Years

Oh, dear, oh, dear. Ohh. Sigh.
So here’s a letter I received today–
We’ve been married 25 years, intercourse has always been great. Hubby has never learned to be good with his hands but orally he’s a dunce. I gave up many years ago. I have dropped 60 lbs and my libido went [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, Best of Steff, Marriage & Other Commitments, Oral Sex, Questions From Readers, Sex, sugasm | Tagged , , | Comments (7)
Jul
24
2008

My First Time (with a Home Pregnancy Test)

There I was, desperately locking and re-locking the bathroom door in the back of a Subway sandwich shop, panicking that I might be heard, or maybe the Catholic in me felt the location was just morally wrong for that sort of thing, but I didn’t give a shit. The time was nigh, now or never, [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Best of Steff, Consumerism, Dating, Humour, Journalling, Modern Feminism, Sex, Specifically Steff, casual sex | Tagged , , , , , | Comments (9)
Jul
19
2008

Thoughts on Clothes Shopping, and Sugasm 140.

Have you ever had one of those days where you just wake up apprehensive and slightly disturbed, and you’re not sure why, other than the restless sleep filled with unsettling dreams you can’t remember?
Yeah. I had one of those sleeps last night. Fraught with the unsettled, but completely in the dark as to remembering any [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in General, Journalling, Specifically Steff, sugasm, weight loss | Tagged , , , , | Comments (0)
Jul
04
2008

On Female Masturbation, Faking Orgasms, & The Psychology of Sex

[Steff note: This posting began as an attempt for me to try and explain a little why women should act out loud when they're masturbating in the privacy of home -- thrusting, grabbing at their breasts and ass, grunting, whatever it takes... but it got a lot deeper and a lot bigger than just a [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, Best of Steff, Foreplay & Arousing, Masturbation, Modern Feminism, Orgasm Trouble | Tagged , , , , , | Comments (4)
Jun
19
2008

On Oral, A Reader Asks: Can I Really Tease Her For More Than An Hour?

some days are clean slates, just waiting for some input, a spark, a suggestion. some days are lazy days of slack, and on such a day, it’s nice to receive a great email from a snazzy reader, especially when it’s something worth spending a little time writing on. if you have something you think i [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, Best of Steff, Foreplay & Arousing, Gay or Straight?, How To Guides, Men's Department, Oral Sex, Questions From Readers, Sex | Tagged , , , , , | Comments (5)
Jun
12
2008

Kickin’ Ass & Takin’ Names: Back in Black!

I cycled to and from work for the first time in three weeks today. Three weeks today it felt like I’d blown it out a little. The next day, Thursday, I couldn’t even hold a fork. So, no cycling in three weeks, and today 24 clicks. A little kamikaze of me, yes, but that’s me [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Being single, Hygiene & Health, Specifically Steff, weight loss | Tagged , , | Comments (2)
Oct
21
2005

One pill makes you smaller: Birth Control

A couple weeks ago, I started back on the birth control pill after five or six years off of it. There’ve been times when I’ve been on the pill, but I’ve never taken it for extended periods. That’s just because I’m the kind of person who’s hesitant to get into chemicals of any kind. (Herbs, [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Also posted in Advice, Best of Steff, Dating, Hygiene & Health, Psychology & Moods | Tagged , , | Comments (11)