Tag Archives: Advice

Dec
16
2008

Steff’s Easy-Start Guide to Changing Your Life: Part Two

I began this series last month, here’s part one. It’s pretty unstructured, but the early part of the series is focusing on the head game, because without the head game down, you’ll have no success. It’s all in the head game.
The most important thing you need to do if you want to effect serious change [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Posted in Advice, Best of Steff, General, How To Guides, Hygiene & Health, Lifestyle, Loving and Knowing Yourself, Self-Love & Self-Esteem, Specifically Steff, weight loss | Also tagged , , , , , , , , , | Comments (0)
Nov
18
2008

Steff’s Easy-Start Guide to Changing Your Life: Part One

So, a Twitterer made the comment that, with the holidays almost here, the annual malaise of reflection and regret would soon be upon him. And I thought, “Wow, this is gonna be the first time ever I sit down at the end of a year and go, “Holy fuck. I accomplished THAT?””
16 months ago, I [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Posted in Advice, How To Guides, Hygiene & Health, Journalling, Lifestyle, Loving and Knowing Yourself, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Self-Love & Self-Esteem, Specifically Steff | Also tagged , , , , , , , , , | Comments (3)
Oct
05
2005

My Take on The Fuckable Friend

I was asked a while back to address the issue of The Fuckable Friend. You’ve been friends for years. You tell each other everything. Now it seems like sex could be a fun indoor sport to play with each other. And hey, with winter coming on, don’t we all need more of those?
We’ve all had [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Posted in Dating, Opinion (Editorial & Commentary), Sex | Also tagged , , | Comments (26)
Sep
18
2005

The Guide to Turning Them Off

We’ve all been there. Someone approaches us at a party, their eyes go all neon “F-u-c-k   m-e,   p-l-e-a-s-e.” They hang onto us. They flirt. They harass. Most importantly, they annoy. Oh, fuck, do they annoy.
And sometimes it seems that no matter how you try, they just don’t get the fucking hint.
Maybe you need [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Posted in Advice, Dating, How To Guides, Humour | Also tagged , , | Comments (10)
Sep
10
2005

Reader Conundrum: The 30+ Year-Old Virgin

I had an email from a woman who wanted to remain anonymous.

“So how is the world with a virgin on the other side of 30? How virgin you may ask? Too! I haven’t even had a kiss since highschool so…. Am I going to end up a lost cause? I don’t even know how to [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Posted in Advice, Dating, Questions From Readers, Sex, Viginity | Also tagged , , | Comments (13)
Sep
04
2005

The Man’s Guide to Cunnilingus: Part 4

This is part four in my opus on cunnilingus.
Part one is here, part two is here, and part three is here.
Tackling a lover orally can be quite different for the two sexes, not just for the obvious reasons.
As far as I’ve been able to discern, sucking dick’s the same no matter how you approach it. [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Posted in Advice, How To Guides, Men's Department, Oral Sex, Sex, Women's Department | Also tagged , , , | Comments (21)
Aug
30
2005

The Man’s Guide to Cunnilingus Pt. 3

If you’re new to this discussion, read Part One here, Part One-B here, and Part Two here.
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We left off with me urging you to get in touch with your inner bastard and enter her for two or three teasing, taunting thrusts before leaving her wanting more.
That done, feel free to grin mischeviously and tell her [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Posted in Advice, How To Guides, Men's Department, Oral Sex, Questions From Readers, Sex, Women's Department | Also tagged , , , | Comments (29)
Aug
28
2005

The Man’s Guide to Cunnilingus Pt. 2

As a preamble to part two, I’d like to get you to read the scene found below from the show Friends. The point is pretty basic: Almost every chick has had the experience where a guy just has no clue how many erogenous zones we have — hell, even the back of the knees and [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Posted in Advice, How To Guides, Men's Department, Oral Sex, Questions From Readers, Sex, Uncategorized, Women's Department | Also tagged , , , | Comments (23)
Aug
28
2005

The Sex Tips Scene from "Friends"

When this scene originally aired nearly a decade ago, I howled with laughter. I thought it was as true then as it is now, that guys fail to realize just how goddamned much of our bodies can be tagged as erogenous zones. This was from early in the fourth season. I think it’s relevant to [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Posted in Advice, General, How To Guides, Men's Department, Oral Sex, Sex, Women's Department | Also tagged , , , | Comments (5)
Aug
27
2005

The Man’s Guide to Cunnilingus: Pt. 1

I had an anonymous request to do a companion guide for my “Good Girl’s Guide to Giving Great Head,” so here we go.
I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again. Oral sex is best when it’s a long, dedicated endeavour. If you want a quickie, then fuck and be done with it. If you [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Posted in Advice, How To Guides, Men's Department, Oral Sex, Questions From Readers, Sex, Women's Department | Also tagged , , , | Comments (35)
Aug
18
2005

Sexual Q & A: How Can I Spice Things Up?

ANONYMOUS ASKS: What’s a girl to do when her new boyfriend is VERY conservative and she wants to shake things up? Suggestions? This guy is NOT experienced but he’s really adorable.
STEFF ANSWERS: Keeping in mind that conservative attitudes about sex are usually resulting from ignorance or fear, I think you gotta proceed slowly.
If this were [...]

By A Scribe Called Steff | Posted in Advice, How To Guides, Questions From Readers, Sex | Also tagged , , | Comments (6)